I have a hopefully important question...

Why is it that guys u like never like u? I feel this is the story of my life, so I was hoping I could get some ideas/answers(?) here. Yesterday, for example, I went to where a relatively famous band was playing hoping to meet them-even for 5 min. Well, it turns out 2 had already left right before I arrived, but the other 2 hadn't, so I waited. When they finally did, they didn't see me, so I waited 4 them 2 come back. 3 hrs. later, they did...BRINGING GIRLS!!! (including the one I like). I swear, I think I heard my heart break. At least I said "It's nice to meet u" and got "it's nice 2 meet u 2" w/a handshake, but after a nearly 3 hr. light rail trip, 3 hr. wait in the cold (while hungry), then a nearly 3 hr return home, it's like-that's it? I feel like such a foolish idiot for wasting all that time, energy & 3 dollars for nothing, as well as thinking he'd actually like &/or want 2 talk 2 me. Last week, I went to a nearby live club, but was virtually ignored. I tried talking 2 a few people, but nobody seemed 2 really want 2 talk 2 me. Even w/guys I just meet here & there, I'll talk 2 them, but it goes nowhere. If guys do talk 2 me, they're not the kind u exactly want talking 2 u...old perverts, the kind that I'm not attracted to, or ones that make u think "eu". Is anyone else going/has gone thru this? Right now, I am none 2 happy w/guys and feel like I'm gonna b alone 4 the rest of my life,or that I suld b a lesbian or a nun (aulthough I can't since I'm no longer Catholic). Sigh. Life sux...especially when u see so many couples & they're all happy & kissy while I suffer...it's enough 2 make 1 ill Any ideas/suggestions on why this is or what I should do? Thanx.

 

Unfortunately looks has a lot to do with it, having no idea what you look like that may or may not have anything to do with it. Remember friends first. Guys go through that same thing. I can usually talk to anybody but if the girl is a knockout, she knows it and is usually stuck up. Maybe you are trying to meet people at the wrong places. Work, school and normal day to day activities is where you meet the people who get to know you for you, not for your money, looks, or other surface abilities. Most guys just want to get laid, if a relationship develops from that it may not last. Hang in there. Most guys think that girls can get anyone they want. And in a sense a girl has the final say. Hope that gives you a little insight on a males perspective.

Dave

 

Thanx Dave. It means a lot to hear from a guy!

 

I'm sorry about your situation! But I had a question...did you actually know these people or are they just the reletively famous band guys that girls around the world have crushes on that you just met that night? Becuase if that's the case, can you blame them for not knowing of your undying passion for someone that you don't really know for real, personality wise? Otherwise, it's really hard to meet someone quality that has a genuine intrest in you as a person in many ways, but there are a lot of people out there in your same situation, so i know it sounds weak, but keep looking! Just be yourself and be confident and you'll find someone! Good luck

 

No matter how much men say they like girls who make the first move-they don't. Well there's one exception to this rule if you like older guys it is usually better if you hit on them first because sometimes they don't want you to think they're a perv.

 

Ohh you live in garden grove off topic but did you go to any shows for fashion week in LA. I was bummed I had to work all last week ):

 

no way, thats bull. cocky guys like to make the first move because they like to know they're in charge, and let you know they're picking you. us shy guys (and most of the really good guys are shy) really do like it when girls make the first move. who ya gonna listen to on what guys want....a guy....or a girl?

 

No, sorry I didn't, so you're not the only one. Thanks for the replies and keep em coming

 

you all say that but you don't mean it-I know from experience.