Why don't good guys exist?

not being prude ≠ whore

prude and whores are extremes on both sides

 

^ exactly.

 

They're extinct hun, just like the dinosaurs
No, I'm kidding. They're still around, only harder to find than a needle in a haystack.
What you gotta ask yourself is "is that kind of search worth my time?".

 

lol nice way of putting it.

its worth it to me

 

I feel very similar to you.

OP, the world is full of great people, it is a matter of you communicating to the world that you want to find such persons.

 

You want a good guy-

Look around your classroom, the lunch room, gym, guys hanging around after school.

Look around at the guys who are talking to other guys. Who seem to have real good friends-always seem to be hanging out with the same 3 or 4 guys. They are all good friends. They are sitting there together in the lunch room. They are hanging together after school. They laugh and have fun together. They are involved in a few school groups-maybe they play in a sport-but they aren't the stars. But the most important thing-they have friends. Some of them may have had a girlfriend, maybe they've been on a few dates. Maybe they have some friends who are girls-but they are friends. Guys who have good guy friends make the best boy friends. These are the good guys.

Go over and talk to them as a group. You may be nervous-they will definitely be nervous. Talk to them for a few minutes and get to know them. Later ask one of them out. Get to know them-these are the good guys. You may not be attracted to them-bet get to know them. These are the good guys. They are all around. Just girls don't look at them as boyfriend material-but they are.

And remember-girls are usually attracted to guys like their dads...

 

I agree with the majority of the posters in this thread so far. Good guys exist, but good luck finding us. Most women are drawn to the "bad boys" and disregard the men they come across that'll treat them with love and respect. Considering myself a damn good guy, I am easily overlooked in favor of the douchebags (though this hadn't become an issue until recently). As a "good guy", I also have the disadvantage that most women don't seem to care with men with long hair.

Odd that my positive characteristics (well, I see them as positive) are my main downfall, lol.

 

There are plenty of good guys out there. Every good guy I have met has told me that women do not want good guys, they want assholes. Unfortunately I think this is the case for alot of women.

Its taken me a good long time to be comfortable being treated like a queen instead of like a bitch. But it sure is worth it. Good guys rock. Bad boys are fun too

 

There ain't no good guys, there ain't no bad guys.
There's only you and me and we just disagree.

 

I agree. :tongue:

 

Dave Mason

 

I'm a good guy and I have dated many good girls.

However, I remember when i was in high school/college a lot of the girls
i wanted to date were all hooked up with "bad guys". WTF is that about.

Why do women flock to assholes???

this is a question i have forever been seeking an answer to.
what is it in a bad guy that is so damn attractive? they're assholes!
why would a woman what to hang out with an asshole.
Do they like the abuse? do they think they can change them?
is it that they are mysterious? WHAT?

the problem with most young women is that they don't give good guys a chance.
also the problem for younger women is that younger men are often not good guys.
their hormones are raging and they tend to think with the wrong head.

Maturity has everything to do with it. In time you will find a good guy. They are out there. Just be patient. Keep an open mind. Meet as many people as you can. You will find your Mr Right.

 

I think alot of it has to do with self respect. I'd rather be alone than with someone who acts like an ass to me. People either treat me well or they're out of my life. Period.

 

Yeah, he's right, hun. But don't worry, they're like this only between 10 and 85 years. After that they're pretty reliable...

 

Amen! :cheers2:

 

I guess I am a bitch. I guess I do overlook the good things in life or whatever. I am sorry I threw all you guys into one big group and I am sorry for anyone I have offended by doing so. I thought I was stronger and smarter now to know what to do or how to handle things, but all the guys I let in my life still just left me disappointed so i took it out on all of u. Sorry, I didn't mean to... I was just sort of pointlessly ranting.

 

your 17..how many men have been through thus far...you couldnt possibly believe that you dont have a shot at findin a good guy..cause you do...you really do...keep lookin..be picky as hell and dont settle for any thing less than you deserve and this is my only serious post tonight...good luck sweetie

 

yes there r good guys hon; the problem is they are all taken. lets face it most men in my opinion are indeed what you state and that is why the good ones are grabbed up quick. if you all of a sudden found one wouldn't u?
mark

 

well, some nice guys got tied down to the wrong woman, which turns out to be a witch

 

Yes, don't settle, test them, men and women should test each other