Ok, I love a girl but i need help. We know each other for say what, a year odd now. We first met online through a friend who was buggin me to link up and chat with girls. I'm not that sort of lad but i was in a super mood those days so i went ahead. the friend linked me up with 3 girls but this one was without doubt the best. from the first word, we sort of had a connection right away it seem, lol. well, thing is, i love here. I think she's a nice girl because when we first started chatting, before anything else, she told me she had a boyfriend (so that i couldn't get any ideas of trying to get her). about 3 days after, they broke up, she said he cheated on her. well, after that, i wasn't planning on getting involved but things just happened. i guess my humourous side of me did too much and she got attracted. i use to ask her about herself and the girl was real good with honesty. how many girls would tell u they use to gyrate with their friends, said she had one kiss. anyhow, her honesty captured me the most although there must have been a few lies along the way (who doesn't lie), she's beautiful, funny, smart, very mature for a 16 year old, doesn't party much (although she loves carnival), doesn't cheat (so she says). the gyrate stuff she did was younger so i can forgive that (i did some myself so... lol) Well, we could have been together but some guy told me something and i didn't bother try anything. i should have known the lad was lieing as he wanted to be with her too but she refused him saying she liked me better. anyhow, after that fiasco, few months after, she still liked me, cause she was dating a boy who had a child and i asked her why she's doing that (too young to be a stop mom) and said she waiting on me to pop the question but i won't (not marriage lol) and she aint getting younger. Well, three days after she came back and told me i was right, too young for that and what i liked about her, she told me all those things about the boys she liked after me so she held me as a great friend and we use to chat a lot. Now, the thing is, i want to be with her but she plans to go away in two year time to go and study (for probably about 4 years) and she tells me she don't want to come back (when she told me that, we weren't into being bf and gf).(she probably doesn't enjoy life much here lol) so that's my main concern, i don't think a long distance relationship would work much more for one where she doesn't want to come back. I don't know if being with her would make her want to come back Help from you veterans please, does long distance relationship work without being cheated on?
anything can work if you both put forth the effort and commitment from my own experience, long distance relationships rarely end well, which isn't to say there aren't exceptions... I guess it all depends on how serious you the two of you are, and how strong your relationship is.
I should say, long distance relationship rarely works.. MaryJBlaze is right. Both of you needs to put much more effort to make it work. Now, your situation is difficult.. how will a ldr work if she doesn't want to come back again after her studies? Unless, you'll follow her wherever she will be. Cause, if ever you'll continue your relationship, what will you hold on to? What, it will remain long distance relationship? I don't think so. Anyway, that's two years from now right? You still have time to think about it. And talk about your relationship.
Looking strictly at statistics, most 16-year-old girls are currently dating someone that they aren't going to marry. And it is true that long-distance relationships do not have an impressive success rate. On the other hand, this girl is a real person and not a statistic, so anything is possible. In dating, two years is a long time, and six is an eternity. It's fine to have plans that extend out six years, but nobody really knows what they will be doing that far in the future. Too many things can change. If you date for a year or two or three and break up, will that really be a tragedy? Most likely, you will both enjoy it and you will both learn a few important things. That's life. You learn more from failure than you do from success. While it would seem highly efficient to only date The Right One, romance is seldom that simple or easy. Many times, I have heard people say that they were going to start seriously looking for The Right One at a certain age, or after they had reached a specific career milestone. Do they really have some kind of special ability to find and meet outstanding, compatible, and available people, on demand? If so, they should write a book about it and become wealthy. I don't believe that any such skill exists. I think you have to roll the dice, and take life as it comes to you. Bumper sticker: We make plans / God laughs
Date a girl in real life. Screw this "internet dating" fad that seems to be popularizing itself these days. If she's going away to never come back then keep contact via e-mail if the two of you really click, but don't be exclusive under ANY circumstance. And she's dating a guy who has a kid while she's 16? Steer clear man. It's just not meant to be. 6 years of nothing but long distance (if I read you right) will do nothing but put you apart. Don't forgo countless opportunities for one, it's just statistics.
Same here. I do get kinda irritated when people say those crap lol - get an education first and then after get a boyfriend. haha Samething I was telling myself but no offence to the ladies eh, I've seen women do a lot of unlogical shit, even women who people would consider terrific. anyhow, she did come to her senses after a few days and did tell me she can't be a mother at that age. lol. as them say, a man will think twice before doing something but a woman gets one instinct and act on it. after they've done what they did, they then think back about it then bring in there usually forgiving self.
If a girl falls for you, it doesn’t matter where you are - she would want to be with you. To be honest though, a 16 year old girl may think she knows what she wants for the future – but one’s perspective changes so much during the next few years, plans end up changing. If you want to be with her – then be with her. A few years is a pretty good run, especially at such a young age, and who knows where the future will take you two… if you see something in her, then don’t let this pass, make the most of it ! …for love is a rare and beautiful thing indeed
