ok, 18 year old male virgin here. was reading these forums and got the courage up to post. there's some things i'd love to say/know about. first of all, am i the only guy on the planet who would rather pleasure a really beautiful girl than vice versa? i mean, there's times when all you want is self gratification but, i have to admit, i would KILL to lick out a really nice girl and to spend all of my energy making her feel great. exploring her whole body and kissing every part of it. i would gladly turn down a blowjob etc to do this. i mean some women, they're just ridiculously hot. i find one of the most arousing things on the planet is "romantic" sex, which is why i get so freakin' bored of porn. you can never find anything really slow, hot and romantic. goddamn "big asses with heavy metal" compilations... i'm guessing most females around would love to experience that. i don't really know what i'm trying to say here, maybe i'm just asking for confirmation that girls would love something like that. i have no idea what girls masturbate over or many of their sexual fantasies. i can tell you now, 95% of guys i know would choose something along the lines of "redtube.com" or something similar to actual, real, love-filled sex. feels kinda strange. i don't know what girls find attractive sexually either really. for comparative purposes, if i was in a sexual situation with a girl, i'm pretty sure there aren't many things she could do/want me to do, that i wouldn't be insanely aroused by (minus scat, bestiality, incest and other strange things). i guess this is my lack of experience talking. i couldn't find anywhere else to post this. this is where i cringe and click "submit new thread."
trust me buddy you are NOT the only guy that feels that way and if you were then there would be a hell of a lot more lesbians out there but i'm sure your friends are just trying to be cool and say whatever sounds the coolest. and i totally agree about the porn never being romantic personally i watch gay porn now because it seems more romantic but i don't know if you would like it. but lesbian porn to is also pretty sensual personally i wish porn actors were a little more convincing because i watch porn for the stories and then i fantasize that its me and my friend or other people any way my point is to say that you are not at all the only person who feels this way i would much rather the girl have a good time than be selfish and only care about myself. so just be patien and you won't have to worry about porn because you'll have your own girl to rain down pleasure upon and to the ladies out there not all guys are selfish and if you still believe they are then you've picked the wrong one or talk to him because he probably learned his sex skills from the porn that taught him
Female here and I can tell you that I honestly think porn is so misleading. Like you, I like "romantic sex." Well, I'm in the same boat as you in that I'm a virgin too, but it's nothing to be ashamed of . Anyhoo, what I fantasize about or masturbate over is...how do I put this...pleasure? Slow, teasing, but love. There has to be love involved otherwise I find sex pointless. Sorry, people, but that is my opinion. Back to my point. Let's see slow, teasing, me pleasing him, him pleasing me, relaxed. I don't know how to explain it, but I guess "romantic sex" would explain it. I am not into porn cause it's just too similar. And, this is stupid, one of my pet peevs is bad acting and porn has TERRIBLE acting which I cannot stand! Like I said, porn is misleading. If you want to know what a real woman thinks about or wants where sex is concerned, just ask. You came to the right place for it. Good luck!
I think porn's funny, but that's kind of off topic. And it gets the job done when my imagination runs dry. What it sounds like you need to do is find a girl that you really like and can attach yourself to so you can get into your groove. Then it's all a matter of setting and content. Setting: Throw on a favorite CD or some music that you know you mutually enjoy. If you can play any instrument then play along, skills look sexy and everyone knows musicians have magic fingers. Talk. Connect. If the attraction is there, try and feel out the situation to see if it's mutual. Content: Always have something to say, even if it's not important, and most of all: be the man you want to be. Don't look for the "perfect opportunity", but instead make an acceptable opportunity. Play ball a little bit, play "the game", flirt, and then when things get a little more serious show her your mettle. It's important not to seem too eager to please. If you've ever seen the movie "Waiting..." with Justin Long and Ryan Reynolds, don't be Calvin. If you haven't, then still don't be Calvin. The more needy you seem, generally speaking, the more likely she is to push you away. Call her when you want to hang out or go out, but don't be the one to call every time. Once things start to get a little more serious then you're in. Don't rush in, as that's a very widespread turnoff, but don't sit and wait for her to initiate everything. It's a lot of toeing the line. And if that seems too complicated then I assure you there are certain tactics that people employ to make their partner more receptive. :cheers2: Good luck!
