I'm a 19 year old sophomore in college. I've had 5 or 6 sexual relationships in my life, starting as a freshman in high school. I always thought of myself as open minded and sexually free, open to many things that my peers found "dirty." Now I'm in a relationship with this super horny guy and I feel like a prude. He's a couple years older than me and bisexual. That's hard enough for me to understand as it is. I've had bi curious thoughts before but being in a relationship with someone who is bisexual is very confusing. I don't understand how he feels sometimes about sexuality. He recently turned to web caming with other people, phone sex with others and hook up sites as means to please himself when I'm not around. This really hurt me. He says it's mental and he would never do anything but it still feels wrong and deceitful. He said he stopped doing those things cause he didn't want to hurt me. He said he stopped before but kept on having phone sex with others. This is really starting to effect our relationship. I feel sad now when I know he's horny. I didn't used to be this way. I don't really know what I'm expecting from posting this thread but I needed to get it out. I don't think I can be sexually pleasing to him, and the fact that he turned to those other outlets recently makes me not want to be either. Sex used to be fun and now it makes me sad. I know it won't be like this forever I'm just feeling super bummed right now.
I thought for a while trying to picture the whole scene so I knew if I'd do that to my partner if I were in a relationship. And nop, I wouldn't. I don't want relationships cuz faithfulness is almost impossible to find nowadays, but if I did and got into one I would demand total faithfulness. And so, if a guy did that to me I would dump him right away cuz I wouldn't accept it (not to mention that chances are a guy who does that will really cheat on you someday). This is my opinion. Someone who's too cynical to trust a man and so chooses to just shag around But it all comes down to what you want. Faithfulness or open relationship.
