My girlfriend can't share her friends

My girlfriend and I have been together for 6 years and lived together for 3 years. About a year or so ago, we came to the conclusion that we spent too much time together and never went out independently with friends. She started going out, I didn't so much just b/c my real friends live far away and I don't make friends all that easily.

Anyhow, I don't know her friends all that well. My friends, from HS and what not - when I hang out with them, I always include my gf. It's more of a couples thing. I don't want to tag along with her and be that over protective guy, but it'd be nice if she invited her friends to hang out with us from time to time just so I can get to know them. Lunch here and there, a day out, a road trip, Come over for dinner...something.

She doesn't have a lot of friends, like 2 or 3 (2 girls and 1 gay guy friend from HS), but still. Plus, she generally avoids talking to them on the phone when I'm around, she calls them back when I'm not there.

She's an only child, that might be why, but I need some feedback

 

have you talked to her about this, told her youd like to hang out with her friends from time to time?

 

Do you and her friends interests greatly differ? Maybe your gf is ashamed of you for some reason? Maybe it's something simple and silly, maybe it's time to evaluate the situation and move on.........

 

My fiancee has friends that are just his, and I have friends that are just mine. When it comes down to it you don't have to share everything, her friends could be her space and time away from you. Why should she want to share that with you?

 

That's selfish, there are many interesting people in this world, why keep them from others? You can have plenty of time apart without hiding part of you. A good example would be you go to the bar with your friends and bf then you go on a shopping date with the gf without the bf. A relationship is open, and I'd like to know the people my gf hangs out with.

 

How is that selfish? You are allowed to have people that only you are friends with, I never said that my fiancee didn't know my friends, but they aren't his friends, they don't hang out.

That was a royally immature response. When you get into a long term relationship and you LIVE with the partner you would understand the want to have a few people that are just yours.

 

It could be that she has frenemies that she fears might make a move on you.

 

that could be part of the reason why she doesnt want you around them, they could be a wild child If you're bored or lonely, just go out and make friends

 

Well, I had talked to her about this before and she seemed to understand, but never really said anything about possibly fixing this. However, since I posted this, we did go out with quite a few of her friends for her birthday just this past weekend. It was a few friends from work, some HS friends, and one of my friends who she gets along with very well. We all had a great time, and I told her this was a great experience for me, seeing how she is with other people. She's definitley a bit looser with her friends at a club then she is when it's just her and I. I can understand that. I told her I liked seeing that side of her. But you guys are right about me needing to go out with my friends more often or making new friends.

Thanks, and any more input would be appreciated.

 

ive never been dancing with my hubby, i think id be too self conscious. throw a party, invite everyone you get along with. parties are good, and get a game like apples to apples, thats a good group game.

 

Thanks for the advice

 

Maybe because most girls talk about their relationship with their girlfriends in general?