ok so ive never had anal before but my bf is putting increasing pressure on me 2 do it, he's never had it b4 either but to me its not where anything other than poo shud go and i dont really want him shoving anything up there. am i just being stupid by saying that? also i kno enemas r meant 2 help clean urself before u do it but do ppl really do that every time they hv anal, and isnt it awkward as well if u dont plan it and hv 2 stop 2 rinse urself first, dont u lose the mood?
Don't do it. I'm all for anal sex if you are into it, but if you're not, it's just going to be a disaster for both of you.
The only time I've ever gotten an enema was from my aunt when I was twelve. And I've had all kindsa buttsecks.
hey girl, do as they say: DONT DO IT dont take pressure from him or anyone, your butthole is yours to decide when if ever besides if you're afraid or nervous it will hurt like hell shove something in his ass and see if afterwards he's still insisting
My gf and I have anal all the time. She doesn't use enemas. But we are vegetarian and have a decently high fiber diet. So if she voids prior to anal sex, she is usually clean. Only on a few occasions have I got any fecal matter on me, and it was a very small amount. If when you go the bathroom to void you see it really messy and doesn't wipe clean you may need to use an enema as you may not have completely emptied your rectum. You can use your finger to check. If you don't want anal, don't do it, because it will most likely hurt. The mind is the ultimate erogenous zone, if it's not turned on anal won't feel good. He needs to make sure you are really excited and turned on before even thinking about putting it in the butt. This event needs to be about you NOT him, since it's your butt. But, if you try it you might like it. I say, try it once, with lots of preparation. Clean yourself thoroughly, with an enema if you prefer, and have him warm you up really well. I recommend finger the vagina and cunnilingus to get you hot, then move on to the butt. I suggest analingus, fingering, and get a good butt plug. I recommend the tantus little flirt or big flirt as they are good for beginners and they are phthalate free. After he warms you up, have him lube up the butt plug and gently slide it in. I recommend having vaginal with the plug in, this helps dilate the secondary sphincter since it's an involuntary muscle and this also get you sexually stimulated. This second sphincter is what makes anal painful if not properly relaxed. When you are acclimated to anal, any gentle stimulation will send signals to involuntary sphincter to relax, this why people experienced in anal can be more rough and use bigger insertions. Lastly use lots of lube. If you are using condoms then use a water based lubricant, because oil based lube can break down latex. If you are barebacking I recommend a good hypoallergenic fragrance free lotion with vitamin e if possible, lotion tends to last longer, be less messy, and makes the skin in and around your anus more supple and pliable. Lube the hole with fingers first and then the butt plug. Also he NEEDS to lube his penis before penetrating you. Also I recommend bearing down as if you are about to void during the initial penetration, this helps dilate the primary sphincter for easier penetration. Use lots of communication, if it hurts, he needs to stop. I also recommend you get in a position where you can control the speed and depth of penetration. Be safe and have fun.
Its your call. Some folks like it, some don't. Don't let others liking it fool you into thinking that you should.
You don't have to do it if you don't want but If you do, always!, always!, tell him to wear a condom. Never go from there to the front without changing the condom. Can infect you vagina. Lube and slow. Enjoy!
