what do you think about this? my boyfriend (who's 24, not that that makes a difference?) has had quite an interesting sexual past. i mean, he's done most of the typical guy fantasies, plus some extras (you know... threesomes, sex on the beach, having sex with his friend's mom, one night stands, bondage, making homemade porn, etc etc etc!) would you say this is good or bad? sometimes i feel like since he's had a taste of all this sexual-wild-ness that regular plain old sex with me will bore him soon (it's been 8 months so far) and he may stray. when i make certain suggestions he doesn't really seem interested. the thing that he does seem interested in is a threesome, but i'm just not willing to "share" him with anyone else, and he has since told me that he doesn't want that anyway because he knows i'd end up insecure and jealous. previously he had said that he doesn't want a threesome "because he wants to have sex with another girl' but because he thinks "it's a sexual experience we could share together'. his past could also be a good thing? as in maybe he got all of that out of his system at a young age and is ready to calm down a bit and have sex with only one person now? i'm not saying our sex life is in any way boring... it's awesome most of the time. it's just that it's not 'wild" i guess you could say. i'm just, in some ways jealous of his past. he's given me the best sex of my life by far, and i don't feel like i've done the same for him. i'm afraid that looking back, when he thinks of "good sex" it's going to be someone else he's thinking about. does this make sense? am i just insecure? anyway, blah, blah, blah... any opinions?
I think you are over thinking things. You're spending too much time analyzing your so's past. All this is doing is causing insecurities for you and damaging your self esteem, and possibly your relationship. Get out of your head, and start enjoying the beauty of the sexual relationship that you two have together. Seriously.
How do you know he even wants to be wild in the ways you're describing? Really though, if he wants to be more wild in your alls sex life he'll tell ya hun, believe me, guys ain't shy bout shit like that.
does that sound improbable? he's not the type to lie about something like that. i don't really get it either... plus, of the girls he's dated for longer periods of time, they've all been gorgeous even though he's kinda average-looking. he has some weird charm on females that i hate. i've found out some of that through little comments his friends make, and some things i've just demanded to know. i pretend to ask out of curiosity but i think i really just like torturing myself.
I don't think that's improbable at all, from my own experiences. To address your issue, I think you should never worry about your lover's past, only try to make the most of what you have now. From the sounds of things, what's going to cause him to stray isn't getting bored with you, but your presumably groundless insecurity and jealousy issues. Confidence is attractive, jealousy is terribly ugly.
