Anything wrong with being asexual?

will keep it brief
i hate labels but a-sexual seems to fit me fairly well, me just not wanting to be with anyone. it's really always been that way. i have no problem with it but seems like everyone else like family, friends, co workers just think it's weird im not knocking up every women in sight. think there is there something wrong with not wanting to connect with someone on a eminent level or should i try to come up with some creative excuses on why i dont want to date.

 

instead of creating excuses, why not explain to yourself why you really don't want to date? and being honest to others is usually the best policy

 

i've known people who are asexual before. sometimes it just isn't what it's cracked up to be. you're interested in what you're interested in.

i say as long as you're not denying yourself anything, why be worried? just groove on it.

 

Are those crocheted, Oshinn? Nice stitching, they look store-bought.

 

I assume you masturbate? The only abberant (sp?) sex is no sex. Not wanting to be with someone is no biggie, or could be just something you're going through.

 

yeah, doesn't everyone?
speaking of that didnt really start till i was like 17. grew up on a Mt. so pretty learned to get along with myself since i was alone all the time. =p

 

Not an expert or anything but I'd guess that if you masturbate then you're not asexual ... maybe just have low self confidence and theres now a block or something along those kinda lines.

 

That, or he does it (masturbates) to the point of gaining no arousal from others since he's already satisfied. I know getting crushed out of a relationship can result in a phase of asexuality though, probably from dejection or aversion to what hurt you. Low self confidence can surely cause it as well, it's actually probably the best bet

 

absulotly i came clean

 

No, there's nothing wrong with it. That's like saying it's wrong to have lots of sex. It's a just an option you make. Or maybe it's not even an option, it's just the way you are.

I'm kinda ackward myself, I must say. My sex drive is just average, but there are days when it's like I had taken pills! you know, feeling like shagging the first guy I find in the street as long as he's breathing lol
I might not even think about sex one day and the very next day being so horny that it's almost scary. Like it's all or nothing. I'm a crazy person...

 

"Is there anything wrong with being a-sexual?"

Nope!

 

i used to define myself this way. it really stressed me out too. but it all changed for me when i went off the birth control pill, but iguess that really can't be what's going on with you. there's nothing wrong with it tho... i dig it

 

do what pleases you man, we have room for every little fucked up dude here on planet earth!

 

To each their own!
Sometimes I wish there was a pill I could take that would wipe out my desire for women. Intense desire can be a real drag.
Maybe your better off? Who knows? We've all got to live in our own skin, unfortunately.
Best of luck!

 

lol look's like you already took it....

 

I don't get it.

 

I don't find it wrong on the sheer principle that I'm like that as well, I just don't care about sex, when I get a sexual urge, I just masturbate to get it out of my system.. different means, same end. *shrug*

 

If it is a genuine feeling, you will be hurting no-one I hope. Parents might be disappointed at no grandchildren (as mine are), though I am sure will come to respect your view and will love you just as much.

 

Asexual is about not having a desire for sex. Remaining abstinent from sex or celebacy is refraining from having sex, but some asexuals are sexually active. Complicated, sure. But if you're asexual, you're still as human as the rest of us and your body would still experience arousal.

Who knows? Maybe it's a phase, maybe it isn't. Since you masturbate, you may get some sexual gratification from it yet still not have the desire to actually have sex. Maybe it'll come in time. Even if it doesn't, it's still cool. You are what you are, there's nothing wrong with not wanting to partake in a little nooky.

 

Don't worry yourself. I'm 26 and have never had a gf in my life. I really don't think I'm missing out on anything. Most romantic pursuits involve a lot of animosity, fighting and breakups. In the end, love just screws you up. I've seen it happen to countless family and friends. Us bachelors are better off for it. Stay single, watch porn and masturbate.