I am so ashamed to even write this but here goes... lately I have had an attraction to my boyfriends best friend. Now before you gasp in horror hear me out! I don't like him in a sexual way. He got married to a horrible witch!! She's beautiful, but mean, controlling, abusive, and she has him on a leash so tight that he won't even talk to me anymore like he used to. I hate it. He's so sad and depressed all the time because of what he got himself into. But she's really abusive and he's too embarassed to report it so he's trapped. I find myself fantasizing about him and me and me loving him and making him happy. I really want him to be free and fun with someone. This is making a strain on my current relationship because I think of him all the time and how happy he would be with someone like me! Please help!!!
Does he say that she is mean, or do you witness it..Maybe he is just saying that so you will feel bad for him and such.. Cause i had an ex that went around and told people I was a bitch and mean and such so girls would feel sorry for him and hence he cheated on me with them..He was the liar and the mean one.. Dont get tangled in this mess, mind your business and dont come between best friends..
I have witnesses my friend ( he is my friend too) go from a great fun guy to one who barley speaks!! I have seen her hit him, we can't even go and hang out with them with out her screaming at him for one reason or the other!! He doesn't even know I feel this way and I don't want to act on it. I just hate the way it impacts my relationship now. I have even tried to like this girl but she is downright nasty and a bitch. She will admit her favorite thing is to see people suffer because of her. It's horrible! I don't want to come between them but a lot of people lost a friend....
Damn, she does sound horrible Maybe you and your boyfriend can talk to him together, ya know..Or maybe straight up confront her, ya know. I dont know what to really tell you, I guess he is old enough to know better and he should have not married her..Sorry, I know Im not much help sweetie.. What does he say about her and what does your boyfriend think...
well my boyfriend hates her too. She took his best friend and turned him into a servent. We tried to talk him out of this at first but her beauty just blinded him. Now he's miserable. My boyfriend wants to give him the I told you so talk but I don't think that's going to make him feel better. From what we gather.. they married in Vegas and he wasn't into it but she convinced him somehow. I feel so bad because I KNOW its embarassing to be beaten up all the time by a chick, but he's scared as to what may happen if he tries to leave. There's nothing we can do. Hmmm.. I guess I just answered my own problem. Just tell me this... is it weird to think of him all the time, wishing he was happy?
Stay away from him, you're playing with fire honey. We're not talking boyfriends and girlfriends, we're talking "'till death do us part" marriage. If your boyfriend's best friend is so miserable, then he needs to get the balls and get out of that relationship. It really isn't any of your concern IMHO. Besides, you definitly don't want to screw up a friendship, not to mention what his wife might do to you if she found out what you're thinking. Let your guy go and look for someone else if you're not happy. Someone who isn't married. Believe me, I've witnessed a family member of mine get tangled in numerous relationships involving married men, and it's not something you want to get yourself into. Much peace, love, and happiness...
thanx I'll keep that in mind. I really love my guy and wish we had our friend back but he is a big boy and can make his own decisions. I want to reiterate that I'm not attracted in a sexual way but want him to be happy so much that I almost want to do it myself!! Buy I suppose you can't MAKE people happy and he has to live with his own mistakes. Thanks for the advice. Things seem a little clearer now. I kinda knew what ppl were going to tell me but I never talked with anyone about this and just needed to ask. and yeah you're right... she'd gun me down
