This is a question for guys, but women are welcome to comment if they want. Guys: have you ever found yourself attracted to a woman based solely on their mind and personality on a first encounter? I mean, was there ever a woman in your life who, you had to admit was undesputably ugly, but you found yourself drawn to her, attracted to her, passionate about her, based purely on her personality? If yes, here's a second question: did this attraction have to grow on you, or was it there at the first moment (i.e. when you first learnt what she was all about)?
I can say that personally I haven't, but that's because I'm a shallow asshole My friends have though. My cousin dated a girl that he said he had no physical attraction to, but he really liked her personality.
Yeah i have and I was more attracted to the girl with a great personality than the hotter chicks i've been with. Like one girl was very hot but we'd go out for coffee and it'd be like quiet half the time, i'd have to do the talking. The girl with the great personality was just always fun to be around, so I was at ease with her and wanted to see her more.
same, i have friends who dont mind ugly girls, most of them ironically do turn out to be cool tho. attractive women are usually no problem finding tho.
Well, yeah I've been attracted to someone ugly based on their personality. The first one had very lovely hair, but her eyes were to deep which made her look creepy,but she had this really happy bubbly and friendly personality so you just couldn't avoid finding her cute. Next one I'll also have no trouble admitting looked pretty *ahem* sub par, I still feel a slight shock when seeing unflattering pictures of her. However, she was one of them rare breeds of girl, with a truly unique personality, so different and original. I almost fell in love, Underneath that ugly exterior was a truly beautiful person
No, I've been very attracted to girls for their personality but it's never been solely on their mind and personality, their appearance has something to do with the attraction as well. Although it's very obvious that lots of personalities radiates through in their appearances and someones looks can tell loads about someones personality, so perhaps it was almost solely bases on the personality anyway
If your attracted to someone by their mind/personality ... Shouldnt it make them beautiful? There are alot of people that may look hott or whatever ... But their stuck up / sleazy personality is what can make them ugly .... And if you have a not so great looking person .... and their personality is just amazing, then its what can really bring out their beauty ....
i went out with a fella who wsnt the prettiest lol, everyone asked what was i doin with him.. but i really really liked him.. . but he had to ruin it by becomeing obsessive and clingy lol.. so i had to end it . . but yeah i got with him for who he was not what he looked like!!!!
I feel for energy with people and that's my primary source of attraction. Looks are great though, but that's just a bonus. I've been very attracted to someone who was considered ugly by society's standards, and it was there from the beginning pretty much. I think generally women aren't motivated by looks as men are...
That would be a yes. And the attraction wasn't instant, it took a long process. But didn't end up with her, met a hotter girl with an even better personality. But she has a bf...
I'm having this problem right now. Just to be clear, I don't consider myself anything special, I'm a little over weight and I don't spend much trouble on my hair and rarely wear make-up, but I'm not disgusting. But there's a guy I've been talking to that seems to really have the same beliefs as me and seems like such a great guy, but there is no physical attraction what so ever. I'm trying to get over it, I don't want to be a shallow person. There's another guy who is also nice, not as close on the values as the other guy. He's good looking, but 4 years younger than me. I've always been attracted to guys that are older, rarely the same age, and never younger. It souldn't bug me, but it really does.
