Ok so here's my situation. I have always considered myself straight. im attracted to men, I have sex with them, and usually i quite enjoy it. however, I have always gotten off to girl on girl porn and even when im watching straight porn im looking at the girl. Lately i've even caught myself checking out other girls. Its been happening more and more that i find myself wanting to be with other women. i had a 3some once, with this girl and her boyfriend. i couldve cared less about the guy but being with the girl felt amazing. just kissing her just felt right. i kind of hoped against hope that she would ditch her boyfriend and fall for me... that didnt happen... Now i have a boyfriend and dont get me wrong, i love him very much. he's so good to me and i love being with him. but i still find myself thinking a lot about other girls and even when we have sex im thinking of women. what do i do? am i lesbian? am i bi? should i stay with my boyfriend? should i try dating a girl? please please help!!
girls are amazing, i understand where youre coming from lol. try dating a girl, see how it feels. then go from there
thanks. i think im gonna ask my b/f if it would be ok with him if i tried a thing with a girl on the side. i really love him so i dont want to break up with him. i just dont want him to try to "get in on it" ya kno? this is my thing, and im trying to figure out my own sexual identity. idk, we'll see how it goes i guess...
same thing started happening with me about 5 months ago.... I started checking out other women more than usually and then found one that just drove me crazy. I loved my boyfriend too and didn't want to hurt him, but also didn't want to hold myself back from something that felt natural to me. I told my boyfriend that I wanted to be with another girl and he said it was ok. Then when I found that one girl, and he realized that it was actually about to happen and that she really liked me too, he told me that he wasn't ok with it...... I told him that I couldn't be held back and we split..... she also broke up with her boyfriend for the same reason..... as it turns out nothing happened due to some other complicated issues, but on both sides the interest is still there..... I haven't seen her in 3 months because we live on different sides of the country when school is out, but I got back with my boyfriend and she has been seeing this other guy.....but when school starts again, who knows what will happen my experience is that even if your boyfriend says it's ok, if you actually start to fall for a girl, he will change his mind
yea im kind of afraid of that... oh well i still haven't even found the "right girl" that i would like to be with so i guess i dont even have to worry about it for now...
i think we spend way too much time worrying about defining our sexuality. are you straight? probably not. bi? maybe. lesbian? not if you enjoy sex with men. and honestly who cares? the important part is like you said, there's no girl that feels right, right now. when/if such a girl comes along you will figure out what to do (test out the waters, leave your bf, whatever). also, what turns people on is as varied as the person. my exgf is definitely bi, though she's only had gf's for the last 8 yrs. and you know what here favorite porn is? gay male porn. so, figure that one out. i suggest you let what turns you, turn you on without worrying about it. If watching girls have sex makes you hot and bothered, and then your bf does a good job of getting you off, then what is there to worry about? And when the opportunity comes along to explore you feelings further you will figure out if theres more to it. sexuality is hard to figure out and hard to define...then add to that the fact that it is constantly in flux and the best you can do is go with the flow. and be safe and honest. if it comes time to experiment, make sure all parties involved are open and honest about whats going on.
em alot of gay women that i know like gay male porn more than lesbian porn.each to their own.wer all diff and thats what makes us unique and individual
ive never seen gay porn but if i was to choose btween gay n les id probs go for gay so that makes me wierd too lol
I'm self very bi-curious and I do also getting of to g/g porn, and I think also that many hetero girls doing to. It's often about curiousity and fantasies how it would be and feel. I do definately think that girls are kissing better than 'most' men, or at least mostly of them I've kissed it's often about a lucky draw. And yes it's a special and a very amazing feeling. To be really honest, I'll go strongest for the boys in the end, but I do just love being and experimenting together with other girls to and I guess always will. And who knows, maybe I meet a girl that I REALLY like someday. Good luck Yaz!, Happy To Bi Bi!!
