hello i know i post here and there here but my hubby and i have decided that we are going to have a "planned pregnancy" in the next 2 years. What should i do to "plan" for the next two years?? Anything will be helpful from clothes to books, furniture, etc thanks in advance
I have had 2 planned children and I would not buy one single thing until it is already happening. You have several months to prepare before the baby arrives. You can make lists of what you want, and look around in stores for ideas, but there is no point in getting any of it until you are actually pregnant. The big ticket items like strollers and car seats (which expire) are always being updated for safety and style. The rest of it will be more fun to shop for when the baby is on the way. To me, it would have been very depressing to have all of that and then finding out I could not get pregnant at all or if it took a long time to happen.
oh i understand what your saying , i'm just asking what worked what didn't books that helped ??? etc . Technology is always advancing for sure i realize that. The buggies are always being recalled and so are the cribs. But i just wanted to know what worked for people and what not to buy. thats all.
Ah, ok. If I were buying baby stuff knowing what I know now, I would have gotten a jogger type stroller with the big wheels. After 2 kids, the small wheels on our regular stroller were worn down to the hub. I put a lot of miles on that sucker.
Good advice. We bought a few little bits when we started trying and were now entering our second year As for planning, folic acid is an obvious one. Also any dieting or lifestyle changes could be made now. I didnt really do any specific reading, just picked up information along the way from doctors, online, other parents etc Good luck Oh I forgot to add (you probably already know all this) but learning to chart your cycles and all that stuff. I wish Id done it sooner, Id have spotted the problems
I have to get weined off my meds and put on new meds in order to conceive its not a big deal but a bigger process. I love babies. But i am 28 this year so i don't want to be 50 having a baby you know what i mean.
Hi I agree I wouldn't buy anything yet just take folic acid and be healthy etc. I do have a buggy but only started using it really since I got pg my lil girl is now 21 months and im now nearly 16 weeks pg. I carried my daughter in a sling pretty much all the time until a few months back she was well over 1 tho. I also use cloth nappys and im still breastfeeding my toddler so these are all good things to read up on and think about. Good luck my lil girl has brought me so much happyness being a parent is wonderful xxxxxx
She originally said "in the next 2 years", not after 2 years. Thats probably why folic acid is being suggested. I mean it could be a matter of months if "in the next 2 years" is the marker. Im sure people realise you dont need to take folic acid if the pregnancy definitely wont be for another 2 years
I took it to mean she would start trying sometime in the next 2 years. So I stand by my statement. You should take it before you start trying, but 2 years would be excessive. Also folic acid isn't the holy grail of pregnancy. It is not a guarantee of anything, so there is no need to get huffy.
No-ones getting huffy here Thats exactly how I tok the statement also, as youll see from reading above. You are right in saying it could mean two years. I was right in saying it could only mean a few months. No huff included
indeed i said "in the next 2 years" I need to get weined off my meds first and put on new ones first. Thank you for the input!!
Hey. It won't do you any harm to take folic acid 400mg everyday even if you don't plan on trying for a while. Some docs recommend every woman of childbearing age take it anyway. Also, go to your doctors and get any underlying medical issues sorted. ie-uti, asthma etc and get them to check if you are anaemic, as it's not good to start the pregnancy anaemic (there's a good tummy-friendly iron drink called 'spatone'). Another (very important) thing : make sure you have a stable and loving long-term-relationship without any serious issues before you conceive. discuss, discuss, discuss beforehand (I'm sure you've already done that part anyway from the tone of your post) and (here's the main part....) have sex at least every second day!!!! the fun part! let nature take it's course, but if you have been trying for 1 year and still no pregnancy consult your doctor. As for the buying stuff, i was always too afraid of 'jinxing' things by buying stuff too early (at least in the first 12 weeks of pregnancy). I always waited until the last trimester (30 weeks+) to start buying things. this will also give you a chance to save. This is just my advice from my experiences of having my 2 kids. The first wasn't planned, but the second was and took 7months to conceive. Good Luck and happy baby-making
OK so i just get off the phone with my mother, i ask her what this type of med is that the dr (mom is a ER nurse), wants to put me on. She yells at me because i want to get "pregnant" "Oh GOD help me if her abnormal child WANTS a friggin child". Okay so i do have Cerebral palsy, and HAD a brain tumor, so who cares. I'm not being selfish or anything. I know what my body can and cannot handle, i wouldn't abuse my body in anyway shape or form. I regularly go to the drs and make sure i have ultrasounds done on myself etc. Shes very um i don't know the word , but we haven't had a relationship EVER all we ever have done is argued. She doesn't accept my step kids as grandchildren- my dad does. I would NEVER EVER in my life HAVE A baby and WANT one if i knew it would harm me or a baby. So i know that if i am healthy enough i will do so. What is good advice i can give my stupid mother to tell her to shut her pie hole. I told my husband NO ONE is going to know my kids if this is the way they are going to act. Very child like!! omgod all sweet when my sister has a baby and very rude when i want a baby!!! URGH!!!
