I could really use some words of wisdom. Unless I am drinking, I have bad social anxiety. I'm always thinking of how people are judging me. I start thinking: "did I do something stupid?", "what are they thinking?", or "what do they think I'm thinking?", just really stupid shit. I don't know how to fix this. I had this problem on and off throughout grade/high school. I though it went away for good last year when I hung out with a group of down to earth people. But now we've all had to go our seperate ways. Currently the person I find myself hanging around with has the worst social anxiety I've ever seen. It's like I caught it. What can be done?
You have to overcome it man. I used to have the same problem. Just be your self and do what you do. Who cares what other people think!
i still get social anxieties pretty bad sometimes, but much less than i used to. what really did the trick for me was change. i was a very controlling person and was very insecure. things that helped me to learn about myself and let go more were meditation, and a goal for more innerpeace, and a changing of my ways. i hurt someone very dear to me pretty badly repeatedly, and that also helped me change. i dont know if you can relate at all, or what your goals are, but for me i believed and still do believe that the anxiety was something that i could change instead of live with the rest of my life, so i refused to take medicine and just give up. seek to be comfortable with yourself, and learn what you want, live yourlife without restrictions and get the msot out of it all. hope that helped at all, if not ill be happy to try again
social anxiety, yeah me too. Some of this helps me. 1. "If you knew how seldom people thought about you, you wouldn't worry about what they thought"--Ben Franklin 2. EVERYBODY is insecure, so don't feel insecure about it. 3. There's no carved-in-stone rules for how people are supposed to act. Most of the time people look for the strongest person in the group and follow his/her lead. 4. Stop trying to be understood. If you walk around trying to understand people instead of trying to get them to understand you people will think you've really got your shit together. 5. Not everybody can be a dazzelling conversationist all the time, but ANYBODY can be a good listener. People like the life of the party but they LOVE a ready set of ears. 6. Stop taking yourself so seriously, nobody else do'es.
Oh yeah, almost forgot the most important one: 7. If somebody dislikes me for no apparent reason it's most likely because they wish they were me and know how far they'd have to go to even come close.
hey thems some tips. I get some mad social anx every now and again myself and those arent bad ones to think about. Thanx! _____________________________________________________ Great spirits have always encountered violent opposition from mediocre minds . -Albert Einstein
