Have you ever encountered someone so mean hearted that they make others miserable for their own enjoyment? My boyfriend's ex is like that, and it's making my life miserable. Yes, I know I shouldn't give her the satisfaction, and I certainly don't let her KNOW that's how I feel, but it's driving me crazy. What do you suppose I do about it? I don't want to resort to violence, but geez, nothing gets through her thick skull! I wonder if a baseball bat would? Just a thought...
Is it at all possible to talk to this person with no one else around? Call her and ask her to meet you in a public place like a diner or something. Once the two of you are alone I would tell her how you feel. Find out a lil' bit about her too. Maybe you will learn something about her that would help you understand why she is the way she is. It can't be easy for her to see her Ex with someone else. Maybe that's not it but if it is maybe you could help her get past that by being a friend and not an enemy. Violence isn't going to solve anything. It's only going to feed more into her anger. If you show her your not going to give her that satisfaction maybe she will change. I don't want to sound corny but her anger could be much further than the root of her breakup. It could be a family's history of rejection which would make her act the way she does. Do you know anything about her other than being your Ex's ex? I wish you well with this.
I don't know much about her, but I've tried talking to her, without my boyfriend around. Know what it got me? A cigarette burn on my hand. I was nothing but nice to her...and I think that's what made her so mad. From what I can recognize, in combination with what my ex has told me, she's used to everyone being mean to her right back when she starts her insults and such. I'm not like that, I don't play those games, so I'm nice to her and try to be understanding. Unfortunately all she knows is how to fight. I don't resort to juvenile behaviors. It has gotten to the point of her calling me a "hippy ****" and telling me that Josh and I need to go jump out in front of a semi. (Long story why that is so painful to hear.) Mean right to the bone...I feel sorry for her.
How old is she? She sounds like she suffers from severe mental illness. I am not joking when I say that either. I know a girl like that. She is very dangerous. Not only to others but to herself. If you do talk with her try not to do it anywhere where people cannot see you. You don't know what she is capable of. Actually it sounds to me like she isn't able to be reasoned with. Is there anyway of avoiding her all together? How did your Ex survive being with her? How did he communicate with her? Did it make a bit of difference when he did? Does he know anything about her upbringing? Sorry about all the questions. You don't have to answer them. Maybe these are questions you could ask him. Maybe once you do you'd have a better idea about how to handel her.
i had a friend like that... its like there energy is this blackness and you feel dirty around them.... yucky feelings
Well after the ciggarette burn on your hand came, I'd say a bat might get through her thick skull. Or maybe a pitchfork.
my ex tries to make my life miserable. Every guy I have dated since we broke up he has found out who they are and intimidated them out of seeing me and spilled all my shit to them-this is why we are no longer friends. He had a bunch of my stuff and I tried to get it back for the longest time without having to actually go over there and finally was like ya know what if you really want my shoes, panties and favorite cd that much you can have it. I refuse to let him control my life anymore he did it for 5 years when we were together and i just don't take his calls anymore-and I am a much much happier person because of it. Last night I got a message from him that said something along the lines of how he would never let me be happy without him and before I would have called him and said something but I just erased the message without listening to the rest of it.
She sounds like an extremely angry, immature and jealous young lady... being nice to her probably makes her hate you more because she probably thinks you're Little Miss Perfect already. IMO, the best solution is to try and keep away from her. But the question begs to be asked: why is she in your social sphere anyway? Isn't she your boyfriend's "ex"? You might want to ask your boyfriend why he is permitting her to hang around and be a general nuisance. Maybe he's scared of her? Maybe he's sending her mixed messages? Maybe your boyfriend is the real problem. If you can't keep away from her, remember the world doesn't give out medals for enduring unnecessary shit... so if she keeps being nasty to you might have to have an unpleasant word with her. It doesn't sound like you're going to get anywhere with her and at least you can get your frustrations out.
Sorry to hear that lynsey, You need to make sure your next bf is not someone who is easily intimidated.
It's difficult to avoid her because apparently, somehow, I got on her yahoo buddy list. She's 20 years old and works at Kmart...talk about immature. From what I know, she's been seeing a psychiatrist for some time, but apparently she quit and now things have gotten progressively worse. She loves to lie. She kept saying how my boyfriends been calling her...yeah well, I got my phone bill today and her cell phone number only appeared three times, and all three times, were when I called her. I made my boyfriend call her and tell her we broke up. He and I figured she'd leave me alone. Well, no such luck. She's still torturing me. It's frustrating, and I don't know what else to do. I've been thinking of putting a PPO on her, but I don't want her to know my address. Anyone know the logistics behind that? Can I get a PPO on her even though she's only harrassing me over the net? Just wondering...
Well if it's only on the internet surely there are things you can do to get rid of her. Can you change your address? And/or put her on your junk mail list?
you should have your bf tell her that they will never get back together, he will most likely have to be mean about it to her.
no I completley understand if I dated someone with a crazy ex girlfriend I would be like sorry man like you and all but not that much. but thanks Joe
