I dont know how Im going to tell my parents when i actually leave. they already are annoyed that the reason why I want a job is so i can move out. Right now im having extreme emotional problems living here and i really need to get away. I got post traumatic stress and being around my family doesnt help it. They cant get that though...they say i wanna move out because i hate them....I dont hate them at all and thats not a reason why. Ive been going to a counselor to confront with my PTSD and as i thought, she explained. Its the environment making it worse, memories come back and the same people i see, i hate, that are always there. (really small town) she told me to go travel to a place where my heart is statisfied, where nothing reminds me of here. I totally agree. I'm ready to feel better and to be strongly indepedent, but..I dont want to get a job here, then i'll be stuck here. I told my parents that and they still assumed i hated them. I told them i wanted to be more independent and all my dad said was that i wouldnt ymake it last a week. I know you're going to tell me "they're just worried and dont want you to go" i know that. but i need support from them or else, i feel like nothings good is going between us and i'll cut ties with them just like that. I know its harsh but thats the way i am with people. if you dont give me support, goodbye. Im sick of waiting for approval from family and theyre critical thoughts, if i have to do that, i will. i dont want to but i will. I got no support from them when i went to college for a boring stressful idiotic 7 months. Every teen needs support. So i quit college because it went nowhere for me. I got stuck and kept changing my majors. Im waiting for this state job...it could be a job here, or in chicago somewhere. either one, i dont mind cause its enough to still move out. Its just my parents..they will try ANYTHING to stop me from going because they think i wont make it. my dad moved out when he got married at 26, my mom moved when she was 17. so its a difference to their thoughts. My mom is all for it but with no support. she tells me "go then! i dont care!" while my dad is critical saying "why do you hate us? youll never make it, you have it good here, you dont know what you're talking about" its really annoying, and besides that, theres a million arguements every day between my mom and sister about immature shit when i only bicker at my parents for mature shit (like moving out) lots of nights i just want to pack up and go but i cant do that
do it! It's your life. live it and prove them wrong. don't cut ties. they'll support you when it comes down to it, when they know you're serious. good luck.
Hi there. Always remember you are no1. Your mental well being is the most important thing right now.. and tbh always should be. Set your roots out there.. Being in an environment that fooks we your head isn;t good at all.. I know that.. I'm still in one but shall be moving out in may. Remember your parents do love you though. Could be one of their reasons for making you stay but I don't agree with their tact. By the looks of it they are bein mean, vile infact but it could be their way of deeling with insecurities. All in all I hope it works out for you. Keep us posted Peace
I understand what theyre doing is being protective but I think they put me down about it is because I dont even have a job yet..I apply apply apply and no one calls me and thats when I get frustrated and want to go somewhere else and apply and thats what they dont want me to do...but its a small town..im getting nowhere here...they dont understand
Well, if you move out, you're going to need some bread to make it for awhile. Maybe you could get a part time job there for a couple months.
well thats my plan if i can ever get a job here. the people are horrible. at fast food and groceries stores the managers and employees treat their workers like scums. and they cant quit because they cant find jobs around here
traveling back and forth to chicago is money too. I mean i can take the train then i gotta take a bus or cab there. I got a certificate in med assisting, waiting to get state certified cause they wont hire if you are just certified so im asking for help within my family who do live there and im currently waiting on a state job but my parents are nagging that i get a job right now to make money...they just cant wait another month of me being unemployed I do however have an odd job every now and them cleaning trucks for a company but its not enough and I already owe 500 dollars to a hospital because I dont have health insurance. In a couple months between april/may my insurance on the car is going bye bye so i need to take care of that also
