looks like i got another broke down car!!!!

i know yall r probly tired of hearing about my marital problems but i gotta vent.............................. so if you dont wanna read it, i dont care!! just wanted to post it anyways!​

i swear to god living with my husband is like having a broke down car in my drieway! I try to crank it up, but i can never get the damn thing to take me anywhere! He has a dead end job, he is a freaking car washer.... I make more than double what he makes and my job doesnt pay shit! I wold be embarrased that my wife took care of everything if I was him, It wold be different if he took care of the kids or the house but he doesnt do that either. I really don't think we are good for eachother...... or somethin like that! CRAP!!!!!!!!!!!!! Talking goes in one ear and out the other with him.​

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Why is it so hard for him to listen to me???? ​

 

maybe you should trade your old car in for a compact sporty new model

 

thats what i was thinkin!!! or just get rid of it and take the bus!

 

Sorry to hear about your problems Funky. I know how it is to be married to someone that does NOTHING around the house and expects you to do everything. Your husband sounds like my exwife. As hard as you might think it is to do, but you need to leave him. Sounds like you have a great mother to help you out with the kids and I see that you are close to your sister. As much as you might not want to do, you need to depend on your family and friends to help you and your kids during this very difficult time you are going thru. I know, "been there, done that". It might seem impossible to leave him and things might get really hard, but in the long run you will be a lot happier. You are a very strong and beautiful mama and you deserve better. I hope the best for you and your kids.

*sending positive vibes your way*


~namaste~

 

I`m going to vent, and generalise:
Guys are worthless pieces of shit.
In fact, people on the whole are

Worthless pieces of shit ..now don`t forget that.

 

Dump that lazy hippy, and find yourself a good, sturdy, Conservative Republican husband; someone like Bill O'Reilly, or Scott Peterson.

 

thanks guys...... and i don't think i will be moving on to a "republican" HAHA if I move on it will be alone! If i can take care of myself and the kids I see no reason to look for another.............. I can love myself! ​

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I wrote the hubby a long letter about how I feel since he can't intterupt written words or make smart remarks to a letter without sounding like a complete psycho! The letter is pretty much just letting him know I have been thinking bout getting my own place since I do everything by myself anyways... It's pretty much saying "grow up or i am moving on, you have to learn to take care of yourself before you can take care of me"​

 

Pff!

 

i'm sending positive vibes your way funky.....i know you'll get through this all....

you are a strong woman....and you're going to be even stronger once you get through all of this.....

 

as much stuff i have been thru i should be as strong as super man by now..... LOL

 

Well, yeah... people are all worthless pieces of shit.
but we bolster each other up in our common state of worthless shit-ness.
Men and women are supposed to fulfill each other and help each other, and it sucks that it isn't always like that. I suppose that I hold on to a kind of hopeless optimism. There are good people out there.........

 

funky...is your husband the same age as you?

 

get this.... he is older and is still more immature!!!!!!! boys suck!

 

i kind of figured that....they always have said that boys mature a lot slower than girls.....

boys do suck.....that's why you have to find yourself a MAN.....and someone who obviously can't live up to his responsibilites will always be a boy.....

 

It just goes to show, that you cannot teach an old dog new tricks.............



~namaste~

 

Like you said it would be different if he took care of the kids ect. Can't you just let him know that hey if you want to be with be this is how it's going to be and if you don'y do x y and z than there is no more marraige. I mean you might have an easier time getting a divorce and taking care of the kids your self and than he has to help financially via child support.

 

i have let him know the deal numerous times by now, i think i have told him this so many times he doesnt really think i will leave. i woldnt ask for child support, i know the court will give it to me but I just don't care I have been down that road and its just another problem for me to have to deal with!

 

Actually, you would not have to worry anything about it at all. Only your "exhusband" and the state you both live in will have to worry about it. You can get child support takin' right out of his check. If he does not pay it, he could have his drivers license suspended and if that does not work, he will be doing the "two-step with bubba". Yeah, every state has different laws pretaining to child support but I do know that every state will take money right out of the fathers check if the mother askes for it. All you would have to do is fill out some papaer work and that is it. After the state gets paid, you get paid. Or, you could get this done when you both get lawyers and get divorced. If he does not spend time with the kids now, he'll never will after you guys get divorced. If he is not going to be there emotionally, make him be there financially. It may not be much, because of his job that he has, but something is better than nothing.....................




~namaste~

 

me and him werent together for a year or two after my daughter was born, and i never got child support, however i did see where they took it out of his check. NO IDEA WHERE IT WENT! and when i went to cancel it they told me us being married wasnt a good enuff they even held MY tax return cuz he owed ME child support. and the worker was a super BITCH!!

 

nah getting child support isn't that easy. My dad owes my mom over 200k in child support and he hired a really good attorney and got out of it and my mom doesn't really value money so she let it go. She was going to get it donate it all to a hound rescue that we got our dogs from and than have the thank you for your donation card sent to him...that would have been funny as hell. But his kids live on a fucking million dollar horse ranch while I have 20k in student loans and I won't talk to him for other reasons and for the past 5 months I've torn up my allowance checks from him. it's alright though because he is a miserable person and I'm not