What do you think - Am I gay?

Hello everyone.

I've been having a hard time with this, so I hope people here can provide some guidance. I just turned 40 and have a great career, family, and friends. But, I've never had a serious romantic relationship. I had some boyhood crushes on girls when I was young, but seldom even acted on them. In my college years at a small school, most of my close friends were guys and none of us dated much at all (the others are married now, for what it's worth).

In the first several years after graduate school, I was pretty much a workaholic. The crazy hours made it hard to explore the dating scene with with any frequency. My sexual urges were exclusively relieved through porn and masturbation. While I appreciate pretty women in adult films, my primary turn on has been watching cock sucking scenes (especially with large dicks). Also, my fantasies during masturbation have increasingly become male dominated. The usually feature myself and another man, or a threesome with a woman and another man. I honestly don't remember the last time I fantasized about myself with a woman alone.

On the flip side, I've never had a crush on any guy I know. This may be due to knowing they are straight, but I can't be sure. I do know one guy that I find very attractive, but I don't really think about him (he is married).

So, am I gay? I have long maintained to myself that I am straight, despite the frequent cock sucking fantasies. Now I am really starting to think that despite strong cultural inhibitions, my interest obviously lies with men.

What do you think? Thanks, in advance!

 

you sound gay

 

I wouldn't jump to conclusions. It seems that there are many heterosexuals who just don't have time to be in committed relationships or just don't find dating as a huge element of life. Just because gay porn or fantasies turn you on, it doesn't mean that you are definitely gay. I think that you may be sort of testing the waters via gay porn. Because you are doubting your sexuality, you are trying to experiment, both by watching and imagining gay scenarios. Only you can determine whether you are really straight, gay, or bi. My suggestion would be to take time to soul search and truly determine what orientation you are.

 

no hes gay

 

does anyone think he should try going to a gay bar??

 

Yeah... That would be a good idea... But, what do i know.. Im still in the closet... W/O a true gay relationship....

 

I think you should go to a gay bar and see how things work out.

 

It sounds as if you do like men.So what if you are gay.....there are worse things you could be....such as a politician or a religious fanatic