A Question for the Girls

If you had to choose between the two, would you prefer an emotional guy or a guy who doesn't like to show them? I'm not talking about extremeties...just normal feelings.

 

Oh most chicks like a sensitive guy.

You just have to lure 'em in first. Nobody wants a pervert on the street bearing their soul.

Of course theres also broads who are all action. They don't really have time for your feelings.

 

Generally speaking- an emotional guy.One who CAn communicate his feeling with me..
...but then It seems even men who don't show their feelings very openly still have them,they just communicate them differently.So that varies a bit.Would depend on the person really, I guess.


Unless its like an OTT sappy whiner-but then I may still slightly prefer that too an OTT emotionally numb guy,,,but then you said we weren't talking extremes.

 

one word...

balance...

meaning there is a balance between the two..

Everyone deals with emotions differently, some hold them in and some wear them on their sleeve... Meaning both female and male..

 

yeah. i don't want someone crying all the damned time. but i want someone who gives a shit.

 

i agree but damn balance is damn hard to find in anybody, male or female. u got part of people out there taking pills and the other part taking drugs, where's the balance?

i usually do my best to hold all emotions in until i cant hide from them anymore, which is a shitty way to deal with stuff, but that's me, nowonder i'm so damn fucked up

 

i love a badass guy who is confident but in touch with his own emotion.

 

cute but how often do u find that guy?

 

emotions are for the weak

 

emotions are just like feelings just don't get wrapped up in them and you'll be fine!

 

finding someone who has a balance in their emotions isn't that hard...

 

truth.

 

I don't even think they're opposites.Being very emotional doesn't mean you're insecure and needy.

 

tell me if you guys think this is being too emotional.

about a month ago me and my girlfriend had a fight over a hoody. we were at her house together and she was wearing one of her ex boyfriend's hoodies, while the one i gave her was sitting on her floor. i asked her to take it off and not wear it around me because it bothered me. she started a fight over it and said i was too emotional.

our last fight which was pretty bad was over me asking a question. okay so in our relationship it's seemed like i'm pretty much the only one who does things to really show my feelings. i always do whatever i can to please her as long as it will make her happy. even if i have to go out of my way or if i dont feel like it, i do whatever i can to make her happy. so we were talking on the phone for about 5 minutes and then she wanted to go to bed. it was 10:56. i asked her to stay on the phone for like 4 more minutes cuz i wanted to talk to her and she started to get mad and said no so i said alright. the next day i was like "how do you expect me to believe that you love me when you won't even stay on the phone for an extra 4 minutes just to make me happy?" she got extremely pissed and started a huge fight with me. i ended up asking her to drop it because i didnt want to fight anymore and she just got even more pissed.

this wasn't the first time she's done stuff like that, which is why i mentioned it. it's just always seemed like she doesn't want to commit to me. when that's what i'm doing for her. she's said how much she loves me and that i'm the only guy she's ever felt this way about...and yet she can't do stuff to show it? that's why i got bothered by the phone call.

what do you guys think? do i need to work on being less sensitive?

 

I choose emotion!

Hurrah! :biggrin:

 

Let not to the marriage of true minds admit impediments.

Baby.

 

If you being sensitive bothers her that much than see how she likes it the reverse way. Try being an asshole to her just like she's being to you. Seriously though, opposites do attract.

 

Sounds like YOU started an argument over your own insecurity. The dude is gone, you're there. And don't tell her what to wear. Trust me, and this is crucial: Telling woman what to wear will get you in some deep shit.

Grow a pair and trust her. It's a fuckin hoody, dude.

 

As far as the hoodie, that would bug me too, and she really shouldn't be wearing it especially around you, that is a bit insensitive. With the phone thing, though I could easily see myself doing the same thing you did, sometimes you have to just let the girl go to save yourself the trouble of it turning into a huge thing. Although I do agree with you. It sounds like you are the one doing all the caring, and she isn't doing enough. I have definitely been there before. Don't beat yourself up though, I think you are in the right.

 

I think the jacket things pretty retarded. If you like her you should want her to be warm. It's not a matter of sensitivity, you're just insecure. Happens to the best of us, but try not to let it hurt your relationship if you like the girl.

The other things more complex...