Need advise for religious friend

Hello, all.
My friend recently came out to me. We've all kind of known that she was gay, and she says she's known for a long time, but she was only now able to accept it. We grew up together in church. Baptist to be specific. While it's a pretty liberal church, it is still bible based. And we all know what the bible says about homosexual relationships. While I've branched out and follow other religions and beliefs, and am accepting of people no matter their sexual orientation, she is still very christian. She told me that she fears she is disobeying God if she acts on these feelings. I don't think she has any intention of being "straight" because of this, but I wish she could be more accepting of herself and not be so afraid. I want her to be happy in her life. Are there any gay christians on here that could tell me how they were able to come to terms with their religion and sexuality? I want something that I can tell her that will help.

 

I am not gay, but I know people that have dealt with this before. I was raised a Baptist.
I have known alot of people that have done alot of things that are questionable in the
Baptist religion. If your faith in God is strong, it doesnt matter what other people think of you. This is between you and your God. I will tell you though, all the gay people I have ever met, are such strong people. This is just another obstacle in your life, that you will overcome. Jesus(the biggest hippie I have ever known) said,"This too shall pass," These people you are worried about will accept you in time and if they dont then why would you
need them in your life anyway." LET he who is without sin cast the first stone", God would never want you to be unhappy.I tend to be more Buddhist these days, so I have learned that we were born to be happy,you are who you are,God made you to be happy. That means whatever you are gay, straight, whatever you are, you were made to be happy..just let it be what it is. too many people try to interfere with what they are and they try to change it or hide it GOD MADE YOU HAPPY ALREADY.. just let it be..God Bless You and Good Luck..

 

I thank you for your advise. But the problem isn't with people in her life. While she is worried about coming out to her family, she is more concerned with her relationship with God. It's not other people telling her that she is wrong. She feels that God sees it as wrong. It's her own mind telling her this. How does she get away from that herself?

 

Do you think God would create anything bad? No, we made things bad by the beliefe we put into them. Most of them were made to scare people into religion in the first place. The Infinite created NO BAD things, so why should your friend be worried about being gay.The Bible is just a book, and has been re-written thousands of times over the years,dont put all your faith in one book READ THEM ALL..You'll be suprised to find that being gay is not sin at all. If anyone says anything tell them that Noah was a drunk and slept with everyone !!!!

 

I agree with you. But this is not going to win my friend over. I need advise from a person who was raised and still follows the christian beliefs. She believes what the bible is teaching. I'm looking for something in the bible that would help. Or something that may not be in the bible, but accepted by christians.

 

Have her read this: http://www.newsweek.com/id/172653
Really fucking good.

 

Thanks Pres-
That was exactly the kind of thing that I was looking for. I'm also sending it to someone who asked me how I can claim to be a Christian if I support gay marriage which is against God. This is very helpful.