so these last couple weeks ive been seeing this girl. everythings been goin good. shes interested in me, im the same with her. after our first date i diddnt call her the next day and she called me that night, drunk, kinda upset thinking i wasnt interested. so its been goin good since then. so yesterday an old friend of mine tells me that this girl ive been seeing has a boyfriend and hes all pissed at me. i had no idea she had a boyfriend this entire time. obviously im gonna be pretty pissed off. this girl has been playing me the entire time. last night she calls me after she left a party(shes a little drunk) and shes wondering where i was since i wasnt at the party. so i asked her how long shes been dating this dude. she tells me they arent dating. she tells me that its more of an open relatoinship. no obligation to each other. she says if she wanted to be with him she would be dating him exclusivly. so this gets me a little confused. because i also know that the friend of mine who told me about the boyfriend does not like the girl ive been seeing and talks alot of shit about her. so i dont know which i should believe. if it is an open relationship, what does that mean shes looking for in me? a fuck buddy? or maybe shes confused and is interested in both of us? or maybe shes trying to make him jealous? or me jealous? aany advice on the situation?
Seriously, she's being untruthful and selfish. My Bf and I have an open relationship but that involves telling the other person beforehand, not sneaking around or neglecting to tell you until it comes out from some other party. I dated a girl for 6 months once before I found out she had both a husband and another Bf, then she left me for yet another guy...only thing open in that relationship was her legs...
Don't believe it! I was pulled through the exact same shit in high school with a guy I really liked, he said he was in an "open relationship" with his girlfriend and that what we were doing was all good. In the end, long after that had played out, I went over to the apartment he shared with her tons of times as just a friend and realized his girlfriend was way too dense to realize he had spent the past 4 years cheating on her with me and god knows who else. And that's a really shitty feeling.
Maybe I'm not giving younger people enough credit, but I know I didn't fully comprehend the meaning of "open relationship" until well into my 20s AT LEAST. So this girl is playing you, is all it sounds like. She admits to being in at least some kind of relationship with this other guy, but she wasn't up front with you about it. Sketchy. As for your friend, consider he might also just be trying to look out for your best interest. Is he the only one who doesn't like her? Has he lied to you or embellished stuff in the past?
