Hi every one, My wife and I seperated in the summer after a five year marriage (13 year total relationship). We're getting a divorce and theirs no way back for us. We have a wonder full 23 month old son, who i love soooo much, he's the center of my world. The thing is Liz is moving on already, she's on her second fella already. The closest i got was a girl on a dating site wanted to meet with me, but i'm just not ready so I blew her out and deleted my profile. I love her as much as I did on the day I married her and when she tells me shes with another man, and their sleeping in the bed we used to share, he's playing with my son in my old back garden etc Its like a pick axe to the heart. I cant belive she's put us behind her and moved on. The main reason we split up was because I was diagnosed with type 2 bipolar depression. I lost my career and spent the next five years jumping from one job to the next, always getting fired because i was so ill, but i couldnt get sickness benefit because liz earnt too much. I tried so hard, i really did, but it always ended up the same way. it got too much for me on a couple of occasions and tried to kill myself. So, when Liz kicked me out, it nearly destroyed me. In fact, I think it has destroyed me. The only reason I'm still alive is that I couldnt bear to be parted from my son. Seriously, thats the ONLY reason. I cant move on, i couldnt possibly be in a another relationship when I love liz, for all her faults, so much. Will this pain ever subside? will i stop crying myself to sleep everynight?
Hey there my friend. The best advice I can give you is to get yourself healthy for yourself and your son. You can't go back and change your past but you can change your future. Your son will always be yours and no one elses. Get yourself together little by little. Change won't happen overnight but with hard work you will see results. Your son will want a good dad when he's old enough to understand better. Take your medication and hold down a job. There will always be some pain from what you've been through, but time will heal you enough so you can move on with your life. When you feel the time is right, go out and meet a new woman. Think positively and go from there. Best of luck to you.
Hey man, sounds like your going through some pain! Girls suck I know but you have to get over the fact your girl is moving on. To tell you straight out you are not going to get over her until you find someone else. Listen its been a while since you guys broke up. Its time to move on. I know it sucks and this is not where you expected to be but thats life man. ENJOY YOURSELF!
My childs mother pulled some shit like that. My daughter is 2. All I can say is shit will get hard but soon enough youll be over it. I was devistated for a long time but couldnt be ina better situation now. does suck now and then not having your seed around 24/7 but makes the time your with them alot more special. be easy bud!
Generally speaking, it takes me a good year to get over someone. I don't even try to date during that time. My suggestion would be to have as little contact with her as is possible. Focus on your son, not her and when she starts talking to you about her current fuck pal tell her you're not interested in hearing about it.
