Last year I went out with this guy and we got really close really fast but I ended up breaking up with him just because I was going through some other shit and I didnt want to deal with a relationship on top of it. We actually managed to stay friends, with flying colors. Some people say it cant be done. We're living examples that it can. And I was fine being his friend over the year and took all the sweet little things he did for me for granted. In retrospect I was kind of a bitch but it was so subconciously not on purpose at the time. Then, as it figures, I was struck with this sudden epiphany and it was like feelings I dont even have names for just came pouring into my entire being. I couldnt describe it if I tried. I am absolutely in love with him. Problem? He doesnt like me anymore in a relationship sort of way. Even worse? We hang out and we cuddle and fool around but then afterwards he always ends up talking to me about this other girl he likes who lives in Carver or something. I dont know why but even the innocent things he says just stings really bad. For example tonight he said "I talked to her for three hours last night. I like getting to know her, she leads a really interesting life." And I'm just sitting there pretend it doesnt bother me but my head is screaming "SORRY I DONT LEAD A GODDAMN INTERESTING ENOUGH LIFE FOR YOU." What sucks is that I can see why he likes her and I hate that I'm kind of jealous of it. I dont know what I'm expecting from this. Nothing, I guess.
In all do respect i would move on with your life and let him move on with his . I realize that you and him can have that type of friendship, but if that hurts you that bad, you either have to sit down with him and have a talk with him about friendship. because if your confused more than likely he id as well. If he knows what he wants and he is still after you than you know he can't be trusted because hes not telling the truth to the other person . I would just wipe your plate clean and start over hun. live life to the fullest
Aww, that sucks. I feel bad for you, but you can't blame the guy for moving on in his life. You just got unlucky having him at the wrong time in your life. Who knows, maybe things will work out in the end and you'll live happily ever after. I wouldn't be so down on yourself though. I'm sure you have plenty to offer someone. Your still young and time is on your side. Keep your head up my friend. By the way, it's good to see a fellow Baystater posting here. It's nice when I can identify the towns people mention. My parents live in Taunton and my sister lives in Falmouth. I frequently swing by Plymouth for dinner, more so in the summer than winter. CHEER UP SOON!
thanks guys, i needed that. i do know that i will get over it eventually and that i just have really bad timing, but at least i know he'll always be my friend and we'll always be close. i can take solice in that fact. and hey, bostonbill! plymouth is my hometown! born and raised for 18 years in the same house! whereabouts do you go to dinner, i bet i've been to all of the places.
That's tough right there. Maybe you need time off from that friendship if it always leaves you feeling worse about yourself. I would definitely suggest meeting a lot of new and amazing people to fix that one. I'm kind of hoping that for the beauty of it, your friendship doesn't go down the drain, but you have to focus on yourself sometimes. Good luck, hon! =)
