ok so I am with an amazing guy, and me and him are going to a birthday shindig of a mutual friend. other mutual friends will be there, its a big circle of people who i have been welcomed into, which is great, BUT my ex is going to be there! so i will be with my guy and the ex will be there, they know each other, but are not friends, i havent seen the ex since we broke up in august. any advice for meeting an ex with your boyfriend in the same place? thank you! blessings xxx
Depends on what you mean when you say "they know each other, but are not friends". If you only mean that they don't hang out together and it's not that they hate each other, then just go with your b/f, say hello to your ex when you see him and then spend a nice night with your b/f and other friends. Don't do anything silly like stare at your ex all night, lol. Just be yourself, have a good time and stay close to your current b/f. If they don't like each other, than that is an issue. It's usually not a good idea to have a ex and current b/f in the same room if they hate each other. Especially if alcohol is involved. Finally, I assume you have told your current b/f that your ex will be there, right?
well, the ex used to be really in their crowd i think, but they all stopped hanging out with him because we went all twatish. so no they dont hate each other, but my current doesnt like him much. and this was not my idea, just happened to be we are all going to this party. i am terrible at seeing ex's, no i wont stare i doubt i will say anything. yup, he knows, no one is that worried about it apart from me, just wanted to know if anyone had any do's and don'ts. thanks for your help blessings xxx
Yeah, going anywhere my ex would be was not very high on my priority list, but having the same friends makes it inevitable. What does your ex mean to you? Were you very close? Share alot of firsts together? Break up amicably? Usually, the first ex that someone was intimate with and had strong feelings for are the toughest ones to see. It brings back a flood of memories that just come naturally. That said, you have moved on. I would definitely say hello to him. There's no sense in coming across as a jerk. A simple hello and then you can hopefully enjoy a fun night with your new b/f and your friends. Peace and good luck.
yh i will be polite and nice, but nothing to suggust i want to be friends. well, we lost our virginity to each other, went out for 3 months, broke up with each other because he wasnt good on the monogomy(he never cheated, but he is bi ((we all know he is gay but he doesnt)) and is very very social.) as well as other reasons. we were short and intense i guess, i thought i loved him at one point, but thats me and i really dont think i was, he sure as hell wasnt. i feel minor anger at him because of certain things he said and did in the relationship. he was a little boy basically (not litrally you know what i mean) thanks again xxx
Go have yourself a bloody good time, spirit of the night! :cheers2: Maybe you can come back to this thread and tell me (us) how the night turned out.
You are my twin across the pond... Your story parallels not one, but two of my ex's. Although, my best advice would be to try to date outside your group of friends as much as possible, b/c that just gets weird. But, the best thing you can do is have a good time. You guys weren't together for that long (I was with both of my ex's for 5 years ea.) so the amount of memories to face shouldn't be that jarring. As you said, short but intense. You don't sound like you romanticize any of the relationship and as long as you don't do anything to make it weird, he prob won't either. (Unless he's a drama queen... and EVERY man can be a drama queen) And like someone else said, as long as the guys don't hate each other or go out of their way to antagonize each other, everyone can have a good time.
thank you my twin, i dont know how they will be around each other, i really really dont, they are both very different. i will most definitely let you all know how it goes, saturday seems an age away. blessings xxx
haha well, it went fine, me and him said hey, how are you, then joked about random stuff, and thats all, he shaked hands goodbye and that was that. what was i worried about? hehe, was strange seeing him though. but my boyfriend being there really helped. thanks for all your help guys, really appreciate it blessinsg xxx
haha that would have been fun to watch, but no, nothing like that i did fall over a big bouncy ball, and everyone laughed, not my man, he was downstairs, but i felt sooooo embarressed! but hey, they were nice people and they said it was funny, i tried to take it in my stride, but still, to fall down in front of the ex, jesus christ, i real teenage horror moment. went straight downstairs to the arms of my man xxx
