That's not a bad question as it may sound. I'm 29, my fiance is 22. And his idea of foreplay is slobbering all over the back of my ear and humping my leg. How do I get him to slow down and work things up? I've tried telling him to take his time. He's way too sensitive about criticism. I'm afraid that if I really try to give him direction he'll freak out and not try at all. He's 22, there's not much that doesn't turn him on, but I've been doing this a little longer than he has and know what works for me and what doesn't.
Stop him next time he does it. Sometimes guys can't take subtle hints. Tell him exactly what you want him to do to you, what turns you on. It's not criticising, it's learning and at the end of the day it'll make things a lot nicer for both of you if he's doing his job right and you're gettin pleasured. How long have you been together? Peace Akai-Chan
Make positive I-statements, "I like xyz." "I prefer zxy." Or ask questions, "Would you mind doing yzx for me? It feels soooooooo good!" That's not criticism or coercion. Good luck. :cheers2:
I've heard success stories of this scenario being rectified with a little teacher and pupil roleplay. "This is how you do xxx, try it yourself. Wrong, try it again. Do what you're told or its detention!" Then again detention dosent have to be a punishment if he likes getting tied down, and then he's only able to do exactly what you let him!
I prefer the direct route myself. Tell him exactly what he's doing wrong and how you prefer it done in the future. He's your fiance and you plan to spend the rest of your life with him. What is a relationship without good communication? So, speak to him now about it. If he's hurt, then so be it. He'll get over it. An ounce of pain now beats a world of hurt later.
