My Concept Of Cheating.....

That was an example, thank you, and it's happened to a few friends of mine.

Some people do look similar to others if you haven't noticed, especially when lightning isn't all that great.

I've never been drunk enough to mistake people but I have thought deer were running around in a house once.

 

I stand by my post

 

Don't tell me about seperating "simple" things such as kissing, making them non-cheating.. If those "simple", yet most sensual and emotional acts don't stir you up if your significant other performs them on another human being, then you have lost your passion and connection to what those "simple" acts really are.

A kiss is never just a kiss, a fuck is never just a fuck.

We're emotional beings, and actions of a sexual nature and how we precieve them can say ALOT about the status of ones relationship.

Oh by the way, you don't get pleasure from eating your girl out?

What are you, gay? ( Serious question )

 

Wow flower girl, slow down.

A kiss between my girl is special ok, and what the hell do you not get about the intoxication factor???? Seriously, I just know IF, I stress IF, my girl was drunk and made out with another guy I would know it's MEANINGLESS and it's not the same as when we kiss.

You are terribly insecure in my mind if you think drunken kissing with a stranger is the same as kissing sober with your partner.

And no I'm not gay, I know some guys love the sensation on their tongue but I don't get anything from it physically, sorry, are there some orgasm sensors on my tongue or what?

 

Just wondering though, if you found out that your girlfriend was getting drunkmore then you'd like and doing this 'accidental' make outs more often then you'd like what would you do?

 

Yes, because being intoxicated oblidges ones self from any responsibility, right? The person has no control over getting into that state and setting, right?

The person has complete control over whether or not theyre drunk, and as an adult who drinks, that person takes FULL responsibility for becoming intoxicated and all the things that he or she does when they do so. That's not even arguable, unless it's an extreme form of alcoholism/depression.

Now if you hear your girl made out/slept with another guy, guys, etc., whether they are drunk or not, if it doesn't stir up any feelings in you.. Well, I don't know enough of the English language to express what I want to say, so I'll leave it at this.

In the end, everyones relationship is their own. Sorry for being a little aggressive but I know many old male friends who got into relationships who thought this way, they would end up cheating, being cheated on, or just carry out a relationship without any passion, lust, or slight/healthy jelousy. Sometimes the man/woman has to put their foot down and say "you may have been in this state while doing ________, but im not ok with that!".

Sometimes, women need a little "push" and sex get's a whole lot better

 

QFT!!!!!! I can't believe there are people in this world that actually think of this as an acceptable excuse. You may not be in control of yourself while drunk. That part isn't your fault. It's biological. HOWEVER, it then becomes your responsibility to do it away from temptation or better yet, stop drinking before you get to that point in the first place.
Girls aren't anti-party by any means, but we do have a tendency to be anti-orgy-with-half-the-neighborhood when it doesn't involve us or our consent.
Everyone has their own deal-breakers, so if you've discussed this with her, you know what hers are. Anything you do behind her back that would hurt her her IS cheating, regardless of what your idea of cheating is.

 

you really wouldnt care if some dude went down on your girl?

 

Talk to her about it first.

Again, do boyfriends of actresses get pissed off when their girlfriend has to simulate sex on screen, usually like a dozen times with another man?

lol

Seriously though if it became a true problem I'd have a talk.

 

For years I thought no, but if the guy doesn't have herpes and my girl just used him, should I care? Really?

I know the argument would be that if she did that then that means I'm not giving her enough, but so far this hasn't happened, and if she did use a guy for that, I would just know to work harder. lol.

 

Max, I do agree to some of your thoughts..drinking can be bad but if any girl, if she wanted to go to a party, she'd take her man. thats just how a lot of girls are (if its serious)

the level of seriousness- its the factor on how girls feel sexually about other guys going down on them, if she didnt feel like it was serious, then she might go ahead with it, i do agree, oral is not sex..its foreplay. and it all depends on what type of girl she is. like me, id be extremely uncomfortable if another guy asked if he could go down on me BUT it depends how serious me and my guy were. If we just started dating, and i felt in the moment/mood and i didnt want my "newly boyfriend" doing that to me yet, I'd go to a friend. It may sound mean and "cheating" to most of you but just my thoughts.

Now if i was in your position mr almost newly wed, I wouldnt DARE go near guys that wanted that. Id be very close to my boyfriend (obviously)

Online sexy talk--hmm its okay. I mean if it was nothing serious and wanted tips for your woman then have at it.

flirting- its ok. its fun and games and good for your heart

uh you said something in the early posts about oral sex, how it isnt cheating if he gets no pleassure from it. I do agree with you on that also. If a girl, your boyfriend knew wanted oral from him, Id be okay with it, because he wont get any pleasure from it honestly, ONLY if we were going out, NOT married.

thats a whole different ball game

 

you should care! another man touching your girl! think what he maybe doing to her... what happens if she gets more plessure from the other bloke (dont take offence)...

i like my boyfriend trying to plessure me in very different ways! 2 years and the sex is never dull and the same !!

 

It's interesting to see how upset people get b/c of the opinions of others...

I do believe that even drunken kissing CAN be classified as a low level cheat. But that's why there are rules. If you and your partner have rules and are comfortable with yourselves and each other and have trust, you'll do fine.

You obviously have ground rules of what is and what is not acceptable. And as long as it works for you and your girl, fab. Our rules have kept us healthy and happy and allow us to play, although we don't have what we would consider an Open relationship.

 

I don't have a boyfriend right now, but if he cheated on me, I would have to think about doing it with another guy. My last boyfriend thought he could get away with sleeping with my girlfriend. She told me everything. I told him it was over after that. I don't know if I can trust another man / boy (most of them are just boys, if you know what I mean). I meet a lot of sexy guys and girls in my line of work. Lately, I been with girls, but I do long for a man's touch.