How do you get your Partner to agree to do a Threesome?

I'm getting to the point in my relationship where I need to do something to "spice it up." I'm thinking that maybe a "threesome" would work (me, my partner, and another women).

The trouble is, my partner does not seem to be interested in it (I think she secretely likes attractive women, but won't admit it). Do you think that I need to find the "other" women first, and then have her seduce my partner into it?

What worked for ya'll?

 

Oh no... Do not "conspire" with another woman to seduce your significant other. Horrible idea. Just talk to her about it. Ask her what she thinks of the idea. Do NOT have someone in mind for it before she agrees to it. If you feel uncomfortable bringing it up, watch a movie, even a tame one, that dives into the concept, and then bring it up in the context of the movie and go from there.

 

The first time I made love to my wife, she had to orgasm in my mouth and I had to swallow (I always do anyway) and when I came and she had to swallow me. that way apart of me is inside her and a part of her is inside me. so every time we make love we both had a little of each ouher inside us... I know it sounds really crazy but also a little romantic--------NOW TO YOUR QUESTION----------this is whay happened to me!
My Ex wife was always asking; do you a 3 way with another woman. I always told her NO. I knew she wanted to have a 3 way, she would always ask who I would want in bed with us, I never said a word, then tell me who the other woman would be. I told her no and I wasn't intesested...Now here is my thinking about it--- the lady my ex wanted to bring into bed is a solid 10 if I had to rate her, she could also be a Dallas Cowboy cheer leader- she is that pretty. but my ex's best friend. I had been given instructions on what she wanted me to do. basically I was just supposed to be a dick in the middle for my ex only, (they could have bought a dildo) I could not enter her, go down on her, basically would be there just to watch... I still said NO.....I know if I ever had gotten this lady in bed (the lady that she wanted), I would have divorced her earlier to persue her friend, which I don't think it would have taken much. when her friend got married- as they were leaving, her friend gave me a big hug and whispered in my ear that she loved me and that she should have been my wife, a day doesn't go by that I don't think about that.
I remarried the one ond only wife I want and shure don't want to ruin what we have togather now.--- I don't get the swinging thing- if somebody stuck their dick in my wife-- I would be forced to let my temper get the better or me, then shit would fly...I think after I divorced my ex, she went to the other side, she is always with another girl now.but not the beautyful one that whispered to me.
Well back to your question--- If you intend to stay married then don't do it. If your intending to leave then have a ball but don't expect for her to come back. Work on spicing up what you have.
DON"T LET THE LITTLE HEAD THINK FOR THE BIGGER HEAD.

 

if ur a guy u let the girl chose the other girl. you need to make your girlfirend feel number one in this whole interaction btw.

 

Be really careful, Spud. Personally, I think sex with more than one person is great fun, and yes it can be "spicy".

But if she indicates that she isn't interested, and she's firm on that, then I think you would do well to give it up. There are lots of other things you can do to spice up your sex life. Make this a "project" for the new year, together.

And if you're thinking of straying outside your marriage anyway, even if she doesn't agree to it, I implore you to think again. Once you cross that line, there's no going back.

Remember the old saying ... "the curse of the liar is not that he can't be believed, but that he can never believe anyone else."

 

If she says no then drop it. She knows that the idea is out there and may warm up to it but if you keep on at her the she will say no just to be firm on it.

 

Why does it have to be with another woman? What about another guy? I always feel that 2 guys and 1 girl is for the females enjoyment. 2 girls and 1 guy is for the guys enjoyment. I realize there are many women who would find going to bed with her partner and another girl a total turn-on, but there's also many girls out there who would feel that your just looking to benefit yourself. Either way, there has to be some serious discussion before something like that happens. Think out all the possible negative effects that could possibly arise from this type of encounter. If your both free and open to it and have thought it through completely, than go for it. But like caliende said, once you open that door and go through with it, there's no going back.

 

God, Sarahrei. Is that you in that photo?

 

are u sure that you ca't 'spice it up' by doing something other than a threesome, maybe you're lady isn't comfortable with the dea of a threesome. maybe she just want u all to herself???

 

This is not easy! I am the man in Tom Petty's song "The Man Who Loves Women." I fall in love every day.

 

I realize that once I go through that door, there is no going back. I also realize, that beyond that door, is the forbidden fruit. I long to taste the sweet nectar of this fruit again.

I guess my other option is to open the door and let someone in. My door is always open.

 

Well, I've never had a threesome, but years back, a buddy of mine photographed my ex-wife and me fucking. That was a strange experience, only did it once. He stayed completely clothed, but after the session he went into the bathroom and made himself come because he was just too horny from watching us. Wow, that brings back old memories..