My Wife And I Are Having Problems. I Have Been Wanting A 3 Sum Mfm Or Mff. I Have Told Her This For Awhile Now, And She Has Never Taken Me Serious. She Now Has Been Noticing I Am Not Joking. She Feel's That I Am Not Atracted To Her Any More, But Its Not That I Love Her And Want To Be With Her Forever. I Try Not To Have The Feelings That I Do About 3 Sums, But They Are Still There. How Can I Get Help For This? What Makes A Person Feel Like This? I Just Dont Know How To Explain It To Her.
You can't just expect your wife to have the same sexual desires and fantasies as you do. She probably wasn't taking you seriously because she was hoping it would pass in time. Now that it hasn't, she's playing the next card in the deck which is the "you don't find me attractive" card. Most married women (and even men) don't want to participate in a 3 some. It can result in a ruined marriage due to trust, jealousy and other issues arising. It takes a couple that are both 100% comfortable in that type of relationship. Your wife seems to be content without wanting to experience that "event". I can understand why you want to try it. Many people find threesomes to be the ultimate turn on. I've been in a mmf and it was wild. Definitely fun for the female. But none of us were involved with anyone else, so no big deal. If you feel you can't get it out of your mind, then seek out some professional help. Maybe do some marriage counseling together, but I wouldn't keep pushing it on her. Best of luck.
