I'm a virgin and will stay that way until I'm married. Now, I don't need anyone to try and change my mind. It's not religious based, I'm not a product of abstinance only education, I'm not missing some part of me. None of that stuff or anything else that you can think of to take away from ME making this decision because it is what is best for ME. Nor am I condemning those who don't wait. To each their own. Live and let live and all that jazz. What my question has to do with is traditional marriage vs. partnerships. I really like the idea of getting married, but not going through the legal channels. It makes it more about the love and commitment than a contract, a piece of paper that you must abide by for the love of law. Also, I refuse to get a "legal" marriage until my gay friends are allowed to do the same. Now after that long set up, the question: for those of you that are in partnerships or those that know others that have chosen that route, do you find those relationships to be more or less successfull, or the same? Are people more likely to be unfaithful in a non-legally binding relationship? I understand that some like open relationships, but then it's not cheating if both are agreed on it. But I want it to be my husband (or partner) and myself, only. Just a little input please.
Marriage, in the "legal" sense really governs who gets what etc. when the marriage is over...and what happens to property you get during the marriage, had before the marriage etc. So, probably a "legal" marriage just makes it more difficult to leave...because there are legal things that have to be done to divide up the stuff...and the kids (if there are any)...and the holidays. Now if you believe in the sacredness of holy matrimony...there no comparison...a sacred vow keeps you together...supposedly. *confused*
do you find those relationships to be more or less successfull, or the same? I don't have any statistics on it, but I would guess the "legal" marriages win easily. I do have some friends who've been together for over 10 years without being "officially" married, although I suspect it would probably be considered a common law marriage. But I'm sure they're exceptions.
