Explain marriage to me.

and a commitment is seeing someone through rough patches of the relationship, not bailing at the first sign of trouble.

 

Ok.

I asked because there are different ways of communicating that commitment. To some it's a ceremony, apparently.

The expenditure, the witnesses, and contractual obligation of marriage 'ups the ante' --- it's a technique?

The more you invest upfront the greater the bond (but also the greater the pressure not to fail)-- which could morph into the very reason for failure.

 

I think the commitment is shown in our everyday actions and not through some sort of ritual.

 

this is my philosophy, lol.

"My advice to you is not to inquire why or whither, but just enjoy your ice cream while it is on your plate." - Thornton Wilder

 

There's gotta be a marked separation somewhere.

A clear statement of intent...before the daily process can happen.

Like the shot in a race...

 

I agree, if there's not one, doubts will kill the best of relationships.

 

could be that, yes.

 

Alot of Hollywood people invest tons of $$$ in a HUGE celebration, some with the media as witnesses...that doesn't mean their bond is any bigger then a couple who never gets married....otherwise u wouldn't hear of hollywood's million dollar divorces.

 

I agree. There was a long time I was really cynical about it. Probably because of my parents.

But I don't know, maybe I'm growing up or something. Because I can see myself married now, and I can see myself as a dad.

 

my parents have been trying to kill each other for 23 years. they haven't slept in the same bed for 21 years. and yet, i think they're really enjoying themselves.

some people would rather wake up with a grump than no one at all, in a nursing home, etc.

me and dave are gonna get old together, sit on the front porch, and try to hit passing kids with spiwads. we'll flip off the people driving by, we'll get some of that "fart putty" that makes a really loud farting noise when you press it down when pretty girls go walking by. and i'm gonna pull out my teeth and hit on young men in bars and tell them "my old man likes 'em young" just to see how many of the guys vomit.

 

Hahaha, classic.

 

you should hit on them and elaborate on all the wonders a woman with no teeth can provide:cheers2:

 

Yeah I was about to say.. I'm sure some guys will take her up on that gummer haha.

 

why do you think i'll be taking out my teeth?

i'm practicing my delivery of "want some nookie, cookie? my man likes 'em young. he's got the viagra."

 

My parents were happily married for almost 41 years when dad died. After being gone for 14 years my mother is still madly in love with my dad. However, I see that as rare. Marriage is becoming obselete.

 

people have turned too shitty, think-skinned, selfish and impatient to be married. i wouldn't recommend marriage for 99% of the people i meet.

 

because i love partying and my parents do too? and this is a damn good excuse to have a wild one?

 

fuck yeah. you shoulda seen our wedding. FUCKING BOSS.

i'm bring back the word "boss," btw.

 

so just have a huge wing-ding of a party...you don't have to get married just to do that

 

Boss is new to me