Explain marriage to me.

If you already have a good relationship, why ruin it with that pointless commitment that means, well, nothing, takes epic planning and makes shit a whole lot more difficult during a break-up?

Is that big white wedding thing that important to women?

What's up?

 

50% divorce rate makes it hard for me to answer you.

 

I definitely want to get married sometimes. Not for the big white wedding or anything like that, but marriage means something like a higher level of the relationship to me. I don't mind people living together and not married, but I want to get married. No particular reason. And I don't mind 50% divorce rate. There are still those next 50%.

 

divorce doesnt bother me. if it happens, it happens. so long as people try. maybe marriage just isnt that sacred to me. I want it for dual citizenship, so. love is sacred to me, moreso than marriage. theres always commonlaw.

 

Cate, you're adorable

So you ain't gonna marry a Canadian, eh ?

 

hehehe. cmon girl. Would you pass up living in the warm weather mmmm

 

I love rain, so I think I'll marry an English boy

But I already have dual citizenship, so I'll have to give one up.

 

really? Cant have 3? poo.

 

Hmmm. Now I'm not sure anymore. But yeah, I don't think you can have 3. Which is über lame.

 

I personally don't even care for that 'white wedding thing', not even for that ceremony thing. It's all just convention and more papers to worry about...
The relationship is what counts.
The getting married with papers and everything would only be important for legal purposes such as insuring the future of the children if there are any.

 

I think marriage is something you can only really understand when you're in love and want to share your life with that person.. I dunno. I always used to think marriage is just a piece of paper and not really a big deal at all. But I'm engaged now so I guess I changed my mind.

 

I can't explain marriage to you, because you don't want to understand it.

At 17, you should not be thinking about marriage anyway, you should be just having fun.

I will say that some people fool themselves into thinking they are not married, just because they live together...common law = married. So if you plan to never marry, you should also plan on living alone.

 

Step one. Give her all of your heart.
Step two. Give her half of everything else.
Step three. Be prepared to move on when she realizes 5-8 years in that you are who you are and she cannot reshape you into who she really wanted in the first place.

 

There are nearly as many different definitions of marriage as there are marriages. To me, marriage is likely the start of the end of good relationships and the root cause of divorce.

There will ALWAYS be people why defy that and remain happy together despite being married but I find them to be very much the exception.

 

Aren't you married to celtgrrl?

 

I was married for 10 years. Longest 20 years of my life. I've been divorced for 13 years now. I don't plan on ever doing the marriage thing again.

 

My 11th anniversary is in a few weeks. We're pretty happy with each other.

I think a lot of people choose the wrong partner for them, hoping for change. Money is also a big divorce factor. If you marry a spender, debt is hard to live with.

 

That's what I said. I just wasn't as nice about it.

 

Yeah, well. :tongue:

 

Just marry Jai.