I'm being pulled between 2 kinds of love... 1) The forbiden love, Friendship love, a caring love, protective love, gentle love, my dream girl love.... the love you know would never last. and 2) The meant to be love, the breathtaking OMFG I LOVE YOU! love, The once in a life time love, The only true happyness in my life love, the I'd give my life for one last moment for you love, the will you marry me? love.... the love that will last forever, soulmates...... but as great as 2 is... how can there be any part of me that still wants the first one?.. how can i be that fickle? how is it after you think you've finaly found perfection... something sidetracks you every time....
If you truly believe you have found your soulmate, I say go for it. However, since you our asking, I sense some doubt that she is really "the one" for you. Peace, Alex
Lately I've come up with a way of coping that seems pretty flawless so far: 1) always follow your gut feeling/intuition, unless there is.. 2) stress, hold of any important decisions untill you are more at peace and are able to view things a bit more objectively And normally I don't say anything about age but sweety.. you're only 17.. I'm 23 now and thought so many times it was 'The One'. And yes, there are still a few exbf's that I love, but just as friends. They are great people.. but you can't have a relation with all the people you think are 'great' I don't know what the ultimate relationshipfactor is.. but I'm planning on finding out Good luck!
In physchology ive been learning that every 3 months in a realtionship things struggle, people start doubting, are you anywhere near a 3 month/6 month/1 yr 3 months etc part of your realtionship, coz once u get past that time, it starts going well again, but then maybe thats aload of nonescence... Follow your heart, true love doesn't come around often..
If one of these is a once in the lifetime, final offer love, take that one. You can always do the other one later.
Hmmm, tough decision. I have come across the #2 kind recently, and it hasn't been going well. The problem is that, this early in our lives, we haven't yet been able to fully define our wants and needs in a life partner. One person may be there, and other one thinks they are, but sometimes they realize they are not or doubt that they aren't yet, and that can cause much strife for both partied involved. I know it can be hard to do, but whichever one you choose, don't focus too much on the future yet with them. Enjoy now, and examine your relationship often to see what you are tuly getting out of it. Just take it one day at a time and don't get too attached to the idea of forever with that person, until you are both absolutely sure you are ready for forever to start happening.
If the age on your profile is correct, then IMHO you're entirely too young to be focused on the number 2 love yet. What you want at 17 years old will more than likely be a lot different in your upcoming years. That's not to say that, don't give love a chance, because that would be wrong. True love can happen at anytime, any age, but what I guess I'm trying to say is, people change, people grow, and what you want at your current age may not be what you're seeking in a lifetime partner in the future. If it's really meant to be, you'll know. The fact that you're having doubts just confirms that you're probably not ready for the number 2 kind of love yet, and that's fine. There is nothing wrong with that. You are, afterall, quite young yet. Much peace, love, and happiness to you...
But, as I sit here and reread my post, there is always a flip side to the coin. I met my husband at the age of 17. I was married to him at the age of 20. I am 26 now and my husband is 30. We are even more in love with one another now than the day we were married, and we both truly believe that we were meant to be. We have 3 beautiful children together now, and life is good. Good luck to you...
