Girlfriend & camping dont go together

unfortunately some people are unable to relinquish the comfort of modern day homes that they have grown accustomed to. warm water, toilets, air conditioning. you can buy portable toilets, but I'm not sure how well they'd work for just peeing.

I'd say go camping near a lake or river, so she can just go for a swim whenever she needs to pee

 

My girlfriend and I just got back from a camping trip, though it was in a state park and you have to use the bathroom--at least in daylight! But we did a hike up the local hill, and then when there was a need, it was time to do it the way the bear does.

So I showed her this message thread, and she said "Well, she's just silly." But then she added, "I think the real issue is she doesn't want to go camping at all. And if that's the favorite activity for this guy, he needs to think about whether he wants to go camping without her, or whether he'd rather find a new relationship."

And we remembered that when we've been on vacation and she goes back to the office and tells people where we went--like 4 days camping on a lake in the Adirondacks--the first question is always "Where did you, you know, go to the bathroom?" And she tells them "You just choose a spot in the woods" and then they make big eyes and go "Eeeew, I could never do that." So it's not as if this woman is unique. But really, we agree that the ultimate freedom is peeing where you want to.

 

What's weird is we're the only animal that insists on going to the toliet in water. And water which is more often than not drinking water. Oh, how the other animals must laugh at us!

 

Not true Jules! Iguanas and urinate/defecate in water. So do some species of wolf and fox. And of course, fish

 

My GF was originally way not into the idea of camping for the bathroom/shower reasons. She liked the idea of being inthe woods, but not without comforts.

This is understandable because I can't say I enjoy "roughing" it, but its is worth it times 100. I'd explain all the reasons why camping is great and not focus on the downsides.

Also, try picking a fairly "civilized" campsite for the intro. maybe renting a tent cabin with a showerhouse will get her excited about it. Make it into a very fun experience without alot of dirtbagging.

 

I agree with those who say you should respect her wishes and simply find other things to share with her besides camping. You got friends? Go with them. If its that big a deal with you, why stay with her? Why not focus on finding someone who likes the outdoors for being outside not just where they can piss/shit. Otherwise, go with the friends and have fun. Tell her all about it or not if she doesn't want to hear.

Personally, I'd go alone before I try to "convince" anyone chemically or verbally about the greatness of the outdoors. Prefer dating/hanging with ppl who feel the same. Guess you got some thinking to do, mate.

 

anal?

 

This is pretty much black and white. If you're gonna camp in wilderness areas, you have to pee outside. There's no way around it.

 

After going through the lawyer/house thing, I decided one of the litmus tests for finding the next mate would be whether she was a good outdoor companion, since being outside is what I do most in my free time, and I didn't want another coddled princess. My wife is quite savvy and low maintenance in the woods, and our six year old daughter pees in the woods without reservation. My wife's also got one of those funnel thingies someone mentioned that allows her to direct the stream without squatting.

Maybe it's time to find another girlfriend.

 

For what it's worth, my girl was also not a "pee-in-the-woods" type of girl; years into our relationship, she's changed her mind. It wasn't extensive lobbying on my part; she just grew into a person that liked being outdoors a lot more than she thought she did. Now we really like camping.

People do change.

 

See? Men aren't the only ones who mature and mellow...

 

whats more natural than going in the woods?

take her hiking one day, she'll have to go at some point, and it wont be as bad as she thinks!

its abit of a harsh solution, but my friend was in the same situation as you're in, and that scenario happened by accident, worked a charm! she didnt mind going after that, and was glad to get over herself not wanting to do that.

hope this helps

 

Y'all have a point, sometimes it's the idea of something that turns people off. When they actually get out and experience the outdoors for what it is in its primitive state, they realize it's worth the inconvenience of having to pee in the woods.

Sorry for my negativity back there, I had a bad experience with someone who was completely closed minded, your case might be different, good luck with that.

I often have trouble getting my kids outside, but once they're there they always have a good time.

 

People who don't like the great outdoors kinda freak me out.

 

I'm in the same boat. My girlfriend's idea of camping is being in a big crowded KOA type campground and getting drunk and smoking cigarettes by the fire all night. She doesn't understand the whole idea of being surrounded by nature. She doesn't like the idea of being away from running water and bathrooms. I will give her props through, she said she doesn't think its camping if you're in a RV.

 

i just lost a relationship over camping.

 

tho the fact is i may actually camp too much for some tastes. i guess i shoulda carried more water, & heated it. & had a better sleeping bag(s). but, i guess being indoors was more her thing. actually, sometimes when one camps for a long time, one is considered by some as homeless, which launches one into another category. & this tends to stigmatize. & one can sometimes lose ones status in society. the fact is that camping can actually be more healthy than living indoors. & one gets to (even in a city) see things like ufo`s,etc.. the air can sometimes be cleaner, one gains skills, one gets more active. but a fullt-time job doesn`t often mix well w/camping. that is unless this is related. which often isn`t easy to arrange.

 

bump

 

Good point, though it's kinda silly anyone can judge someone for camping too long, being self sufficient, and using less resources than everyone else.

I'm married 'cause my wife is cool about camping (that and our little accident seven years ago who's now our daughter, she camps with us on our tamer outings).

All we do in our time off when we travel is go to the woods and car camp or back pack. We save a lot of money that way, and instead we spend it on camping gear.