Am i the only person in the world who doesnt want to have children?we were talking about this at lunch time today and all my friends want to have big families! i dont want children nor do i want to get married. i mean children will bascially just ruin your life! you have to look after them, they scream and shout and shit everywhere and they tie you down for life! and if your a woman they make your body very mishapen and you have to work bloody hard to get back in shape! and when they grow up they will spend all your money and cause you stress and headaches! and people say its worth it in the end! sorry folks but i really dont see the attraction! now i sound like i have a heart of stone! lol i dont! i mean babies are ok but i dont want any myself!i know thats going to put men off alot in the future because some of them do want children but to be honest i dont care cos they aint the ones who have to carry them around for 9 months, go through the painful birth and then look after the babie for aother 20 years until it leaves home, if it ever leaves home! you never know i might change my opinions as i get older but it just annoys me the way my friends always go on about how they want yo have fantastic children and then accuse me of being heartless and cold! any one else with me on this one? ellie xxxxx
I don't know. I think about various things a lot... this happens to be one of them. I'm not pressured nor will I pressure... I'm the only male in my family of only five grandchildren with my original family's last name... and my parents are always like "You should get married and have kids blah blah blah" and I think to myself that... it doesn't just work for me that way. It's not that simple to me. I'd rather it just happen for the hell of it and if it happens it happens - better then pressuring myself or anyone else... I'd rather it not be my decision as I'm not a female. But then again, I'm not going to do the planning if I'm a male. Children can be a bit nerve racking (and bending) at times, but there's moments that are priceless. It is priceless. It's nothing meterialistic... that's the strange thing about it. Yet it's a gift or at least I see it as one. I used to tutor the third grade a while ago and I always wonder and think about the kids I tutored... if anybody around here had kids that were in need of a babysitter, I'd do it, but then again, there's only two around babysitting age across the street and they already have one.
I want kids, but not til I'm much much older. 26 or 27 or so, or maybe earlier, or later. Its not one of the things I'm thinking much about right now. But when I get out of here and out to California, I want to be able to have fun and enjoy life, without having to worry about a kid.
That was so funny yet kind of cruel... someone said in another thread that they were going to make a 4 year old smoke marijuana.
omg, I can't stand boogery little children. (sorry, to any boogery children who visit this site.) All they do is pick their nose & talk about their Pokemon trading cards. Hahahaaaa...
Don't ever feel pressured to have children. Most people assume that they want kids and don't ever think any more deeply on the subject. It is one that deserves careful and mature consideration. I agree that childbirth is painful and unecessary, given that there are already countless orphans in need of good homes. This is why I will adopt all of my children--then you never have to worry about your body being thrown out of whack, and you will have helped make the world a better place for at least one other human being. I don't agree that children tie you down for the rest of your life. It is a lifelong commitment in some ways, but if you raise your kids into mature, responsible, and healthy adults, they WILL leave home when they're 18 or so. Once they leave the house (and are through with college), you're pretty much free again. But like I said, DON'T have them if you don't want them--that's one of the reason behind there being so many orphans in this world to begin with.
I want children probably around twenty seven twenty eightish but I'm horribly afraid that I might be pregnant. I don't think I am, I really don't, but theres always that possiblity. Bastard, taking so much advantage of me. Good thing he's got a bloody restraining order. Oh well, I do have names incase. Girl; either Isis, Willow or Lilith, Boy; Patch, Arlo, Eli. A child is a beautiful thing, perhaps the most beautiful in my opinion but I really want to live my life first and have babies with somebody I really love instead of some 45 year old prick who uses 15 year old girls for their uterus.
Arlo Guthrie... omg... every day I always think of the movie Alice's Restaurant and it often plays in my head. I'm going to get that... I like the way he narrates...
'I can see what you want my wallet for Officer Obie, so that I don't have any money to spend when I'm in the cell but what do ya want my belt for?'
Hahaha... I love that movie so much... the humor is rather eccentric at the same time... I like the part where he's talking about the father rapers and such when they were going to draft him and he was sent with other criminals.
Yeah! 'And then the ugliest nastiest one of em' all came up to me asked, so what'd you get? And I said, I didn't get nothin', I had to pay 25$ and pick up de garbage. Then he asked, what were you arrested for? ...litterin'... and they all moved away from me on the bench... and creatin' a nuisance!
im glad im not the only one with this opinon! Phew! i dont know what film your talking about, what is it? love ellie xxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxxx
Alice's Restaurant... with Arlo Guthrie... "You can get anything you want at Alice's restaurant"... like the song.
The song is better 'cause it all happened, but the movie is better because we see Arlo. *drools* Thats one older man I'd fall for any day.
Yeah... that was the first thing I actually saw what Arlo looked like in... I love his song on the Woodstock DVD Going to California... I always remember Woody Guthrie's "This machine kills facists" bumper sticker on his guitar.
this is very un-true, maybe not for everyone but they didnt ruin my life i got preg in high school. i finished school and like to think i have a fairly sucessful hob now. my daughter was unplanned and i was scared to death when i found out i was preg, but i never thought of it as ruining my life, she saved me from the destructive path i was heading down, without her i woldve ruined my life all by myself i lost all the weight right after the baby, for some people it is harder but i don't think i am mis-shapen!
Having children has not ruined my life either. Like FunkyPhreshMama, it has saved me in a sense. There is no TELLING where I'd be today without them. They keep me "grounded", so to speak. My little "boogery children" are all I have in the world, and I couldn't imagine my life without them. You just view life so differently after child birth..and there's no way to really understand that till you've done it. I didn't want children either, so I know exactly what you're saying. You just adapt to it. You take on the responsibility and do whatcha gotta do. That's what a mama does.
