Ok, so some fo you may remember, but for those who don't, I'm still a virgin. But that is going to change soon. I have found the guy i want to give it to and we've talked and are noth ready for it. I was just wondering if anyone could give me any advise that might ease the pain a bit(im not an idiot, i know its gonna hurt) or just anything that you think I should know that maybe i dont(although I have been on here for over a year). Thanks!!!!!
RELAX...don't tense yourself all up. And like ihmurria said, foreplay makes the world go round. It works wonders....
it doesent hurt necciserily, and if it does its not that bad, been with a few virgins and none complained.
dont let him cum inside you if your not on b/c..unless you want to get pregnant. and relax and enjoy. and foreplay is important.
definatly use foreplay if you don't lube up...god i hate that! sounds like you're talking about a car! also, definatly use protection which you probably already knew, and hm...even though guys have your best intentions at heart, if it hurts right away, don't be afraid to tell him! sometimes they like to do uber deep penetration, but it will definately feel better with, say, shallow thrusts, until you feel comfortable. Hope this helps!
relaxation is definitely important, like pretty much everyone said... it might help if you guys take a shower/bath together beforehand. the warm water will help relax your muscles. (though, i don't think it would be best to have sex for the first time in a body of water.. the water can wash away lube, both your own and the store-bought kind, which might make things trickier at first... just a shower beforehand).
relax, and foreplay is the way 2 go, espcially get him 2 use finger on you, and if your using the pill and dnt wear condoms, go down on him so its easier 4 him 2 go inside you, my first time never hurt, must just be lucky. good luck,have fuuuuuuuuuun!
Lots of patience and lots of foreplay from your guy. It's really not as bad as you might think, trust me. Sure, it hurts a bit the first time (I couldn't walk right for a couple of days after my husband deflowered me because I was sore, but that was my fault since I kept wanting to do it. I was so excited to be finally having sex and how great it felt. LOL) but if your guy knows what he's doing, it's quickly followed by pleasure. If you want to talk about pain, try giving birth naturally. Now THAT'S pain. Peace, love, and happiness...
