i can't orgasm.

If male masturbation was the ultimate, all one would do is masturbate.

 

Can we assume that you mean you can masturbate yourself to an orgasm? If so, that's very good. If you can orgasm by yourself, you can orgasm with a man ... you just might have to do some things a little differently.

All orgasms are "clitoral". There's no other kind. From an anatomic standpoint, women don't have different kinds of orgasms. That would be like saying that men have "shaft" orgasms and "head" orgasms.

The clitoris is the key. Remember that your clitoris has twice as many nerve endings as the head of a man's penis, and they're concentrated into a much smaller spot. That says to me that clitoral stimulation is more intense for us than stimulating a man's cock is for them.

If your clitoris doesn't get stimulated, one way or another, you're not likely to orgasm. Possible, but not likely. Some women can orgasm from nipple stimulation alone, but that's another subject.

It's difficult for a man to stimulate your clitoris directly during intercourse, in the way that the head of his penis is being stimulated directly inside your vagina. Unless he's some kind of an acrobat, his penis doesn't even touch your clitoris. As he thrusts back and forth inside you, your clit hood is gently pulled up and down, stimulating the clitoris. That's what causes you to orgasm. Having his penis inside you feels good, but it's the clitoris being stimulated that makes you orgasm.

There's nothing wrong with rubbing yourself during intercourse to increase the amount of stimulation of your clitoris. You might not be lubricated enough up there, though ... in that case use your own saliva or some water-based lubricant that you can buy in the drugstore. Don't use something like vaseline, which is petroleum-based.

You might also want to try using a vibe. If you've never used a vibe, you're in for a very pleasant surprise ... *wink*

Notice that all of this makes you responsible for your own orgasms ... not your boyfriend. If he cares for you, and I'm sure he does, then he'll do everything he can. But ultimately, it's up to you. For women, orgasms sometimes just take practice. The more you do it, the better you become at it.

In my opinion, an orgasm with a man inside you is more enjoyable than without a man. And while it's probably never gonna happen that we orgasm as easily as men do, we can orgasm during intercourse too ... it just might take some extra effort.

Good luck

 

I can't either! It's making me crazy! I've never orgasmed with a guy b4. My bf luvs oral, lots of foreplay, and can go all night but I just can't! I feel your frustration...

 

This is being quoted so that maybe you'll read it at least twice.

Boys and girls both ..... read it a third time and think abut it ...... a lot!

 

In my long life I've been lucky enough to have had several long term partners who were superb sexual partners.

None of them could make my penis feel so many varied and intense sensations as I can with my fingers!

Once you (you in general, not you in particular unless the shoe fits) outgrow being a kid you'll find that the intimacy of sharing sex with a loved one is what makes masturbation a distant second ..... in most cases.

 

Once you (you in general, not you in particular unless the shoe fits) outgrow being a kid you'll find that the intimacy of sharing sex with a loved one is what makes masturbation a distant second ..... in most cases.

Well put, Troll. Being in love is the best aphrodisiac there is.

 

As I may have said before; you seem to have your act together for such a young'un!

 

lol ... you silver-tongued devil ...

I can't figure out how to send you a pm ... am I now allowed yet?

 

No PMs allowed (is PMs like PMS?) until the forum gods decide that you're trustworthy.

 

You have misconstrued what I wrote in that sentence I think ?

Making love to ones partner is much better than masturbation, its not just the sex act, its also the (like you say the intimacy) the relationship with that person that makes it wonderful.