What's Wrong With Me? I Need Help.

Im 19 years old. When I was 16 I began dating a girl, and about 6 months into the relationship, we began having sex, she was my first. We never had problems with sex, we had it quit frequently...about 6 times a week until we broke up...we dated for 2 years.
After we broke up, I tried having sex with a girl I knew at a party. We went to bed, began kissing, which led to fooling around. I was ready to go, but as soon as I went to put on the condom, I lost my erection. This was a very concerning and embarrassing situation. I wasnt very drunk either. Angrily, I sat there with the girl and we talked about it and she said it could have been that I had too much to drink, or that I just wasnt over my ex and wasnt ready to move on sexually yet.
Ever since that night, Ive dreaded my next relationship because I was worried that with whoever the next girl is, I wouldnt be able to perform sexually. I have always been a worrier.
Recently Ive been seeing this girl. She's amazing. I was friends with her for a couple years before we started seeing eachother. Im beginning to fall in love with her. In conversation, she's really put an importance on intimacy which really freaks me out because Im still worried about performance.
One night we were fooling around and she asked if I was hard. I was...but then I lost it. I talked to her about it and told her the story of my prior unsuccessful encounter and she assured me that she had no problem waiting for me to clear my head and figure it out. Then, last night we got home from the movies and I was lying in her bed and I said "You want to go downstairs and watch TV?" and she said "No, I have other plans" and she got on top of me and we started making out and again, I had it going...but lost my erection again.
This is very frustrating because I know I dont have ED or anything, its just that Im too inside of my head. And I hate it because I am so rediculously attracted to this girl, physically and sexually. I think about her all the time and I think about having sex with her. Everything else in our relationship is ABSOLUTLEY PERFECT except for this. Please, help me to achieve normalcy in my relationship!

 

Wow.
That sucks.
Since I'm not a guy, I don't know if this is normal or not.
I don't think it is, though. =/
Maybe you should see a doctor, and ask them.
Or take Viagra. ;]

 

Get her to suck on it for a bit and that should take care of it. Its a mental thing dude, let go and get some ass bro. You could also try going down on her first, you may be able to achieve a solid hard on giving oral(I usually do) then she should be pretty wet and that will make for swift penetration. I would also address the issue of bruising the female ego, she seems to be taking it like a champ, but I would def tell her...you were so concerned about it that you went to the doctor and he advised you that it was your anxiety medicine or some shit causing the issue, its common but your medicine is working for you and you don't want to switch. This should be music to her ears and may relieve some pressure from you as well.

 

you can't keep your erection because you are so anally focused of losing it.

forget about past experiences and focus on the right here right now.. and get laid!

 

It seems a little strange to me that you have only two total posts in Hip Forums - - almost a year apart - - almost identical. Care to explain?



Have fun, play safely, and eat your honey!

 

^weird. i would have never noticed that!

 

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Good eye Troll. Wonder what that's about?

 

i noticed lol its like you've been around here forever

 

It happens sometimes. Don't blame him in the future or you will really have problems. Sometimes I get hard and it goes down while trying to put in it. Yeah, that fast. I have noticed it happens when I am not really in the mood and want to please my girl. Was this the case?

 

Go see a doctor. Start with the urologist then a psychologist. You may have a deep problem and can get worst. Reasons? Diabetes ...early onset ...or low testosterone levels ...drugs, alcohol, tobacco, stress, OCD may be triggering. Best and quickest way is go to doctor and explain all. Good luck and let us know how you did.