[anal question for ladies] fufilling one's needs

Hi, so a question to all you ladies out there:

I've got, and had for a long time, this strong itch for anal sex. I guess I always thought in my mind that when I finally found a nice girl, she would turn out to be really bad too . In any case, she's completely against anal sex, and I'm a little disappointed, but I love her to death so it's OK with me.

What I wanted to ask is if ya'll would get mad or jealous or upset if you found out that I habitually masturbate to anal porn. I feel kinda bad about it, but I really feel like I don't get off to regular sex the same way I feel like I would get off to anal.

So here's the clincher - big time nono or acceptable in your books?

Thanks for reading

 

I think its fine as long as you aren't comparing the anal porn to your lover.

 

I think it totally depends on the girl.

A general rule I follow is that if you feel bad about something you're doing, it would probably upset your girl.

I know this probably gets said a thousand times a day on this forum, but talk to her about it.

 

ha! I would try this: have her accidentally "find" the anal porn. If she knows what you are in to, she may come around one day.

 

Porn videos always seem to make anal penetration really easy - it certainly isn't.

Fair enough I am at a bit of a disadvantage, being generously endowed in the girth department, but even when I have been on the receiving end of those who have been long & thin, penetration has still never been an easy matter, regardless of how relaxed I am or the amount of lube used.

However, I don't know if it's a general rule, or if there is a biological reason to explain it, but I have found anal penetration easier to achieve with females than with males. Perhaps it has to do with the difference in the shape of the hip bone? I can't be sure.

 

:rofl: that already happened a while back, except it was a real accident unfortunately the title of that particular video was "Painful Anal" lol. lets just say that didn't help my situation

it turns out no matter how well you hide a video file on your harddrive, those HP Media Centers will find them and have them available for viewing. I made up some excuse for having porn on the computer (lol imagine the awkwardness) but she's a real sweet girl so even if it really made her mad, she probably wouldn't tell me her exact feelings.

 

UH well I'm pretty sure porn is pretty much made for guys to masturbate =p It's not like cheationg or anything.. honestly I wouldn't care less.

 

I don't see anything wrong with it. Heck, my boyfriend masturbates to all kinds of porn. But, we have anal. So, it's not a dream for him.

 

Okay, that's the part that makes me wonder... I have a question. Have you ever had anal sex? If so, did you enjoy it more than "regular" sex? Your post didn't specify whether this "itch" was to try anal sex or if it was something you've done before.

In either case, if this desire is as strong as you describe it, I think your relationship could eventually suffer. Your fixation on this particular sexual act is curious in itself. However, you used the words "fufilling one's needs". If this is a part of sex that you need to become aroused, in time you will grow resentful of the person who denies you what you want (ie. your girl/lady/girlfriend?/wife?).

In order to have a healthy and mutually pleasurable sex life, both people must be sexually fufilled and satisfied. If you can't give that to one another, maybe you should find someone who is less opposed to a little kink.

On the other hand, if this is a pleasure you can control and confine to the occasional jerking off to a "Painful Anal" video, then do a better job hiding your files and drop the subject, for good.

 

ya i feel the same just don't compare... but i'd ask you to stop cuz i'd want to feel like we're on the same page sexually ya know..

 

buttsecks is bad...

 

buttsex FTW!!!!!!!!

 

I don't care for anal sex. When men want to do it, my standard reply is ... "sure I'll do it, after you have it done to you first." That usually puts an end to it.

I figure if my not wanting anal sex is a deal-breaker, then the deal is better off being broken now.

 

you said it sista, I was dating this girl who refused to do oral (its my absolute favorite thing ever) I think she thought she was too good for it or something, as if, anyway I ended up thinking she was a total douche becuase she didnt care about what I wanted and was un-concerned about fulfilling my needs.

 

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