How do you ever really know if someone loves you? And how do you ever really know if you love someone? Specifically if they don't tell you and and you never get a chance to show them? And what should you do if you love someone, who you believe loves you but maybe they are afraid and push you away? Do you tell that person you love them and let them hurt you even more or do you try to convince them to just let you hang around them again or do just try to move on or what? And ummm who wants to mend my broken heart???
As far as my experience goes, you just know. How do you know? because you would not need to ask. I'ts THAT certain.... If you are afraid to ask, then ask yourself why? and get it over and done with and stop torturing yourself. means well really strawpup
#1 you have to take their words and action as proof, and let them love you. #2You just know if you love someone. #3 if they don't tell you then you have to ask or see if their actions show it, but they should tell you #4 if they push you away then you have to confront them and make up your mind, do you wanna push back or walk away #5 if you love someone you should tell them (unless they are married or something, cuz no good can come from that) and not attach any strings, meaning tell them and don't expect them to say it back just cuz you said it.
BTW, it is a very special feeling, it feels sooooo nice, and it's horrid when sometimes we have to let it go........ But if it is not right, then best wait till RIGHT comes along, But I could be wrong of course... ?
What if they have thrown pretty obvious hints and you were sure the two of you were trying to take things slowly but the feelings became really intense, really quick and then they vanished suddenly before either of you said anything that might scare the other away?
ackk..Im soo mad and distorted right now...see..I decided a little while ago that Guys should be persuers and so the idea of liking a guy is poitless and stupid kinda....Now...Ive been havig feelings for my one friend Caleb for quite a while...probobly since..June...he told me ONCE in august that he liked me..then we never talked about it again...I dont know if he still likes me or if were just friends or whats hapenning...but..I know I like him..I cant dey it to myself any more..soo..what do I do with that? do I tell him? i dont wanna screw up a good friendship...and I dont wanna be a persuer..ACK..HELP!
I think whoever has the thought in their head, if you've thought about it you should persue him, I find it actually easier when I persue a guy than when a guy pursues me b/c then I know exactly how much I like him, so I think you should let him know you like him it doesn't mean you guys have to immediately get together just because you say that, but if you do tell him you will find out if he likes you too..
I think you should stop worrying about it so much. You like him so what? Be yourself. If you enjoy being around him, then enjoy being around him. Stop worrying about it and be yourself, if it is to be it will be........(in it's own good time)
I'm a talker. I talk about my feelings. I am also very emotional. I feel more alive when I can say I love you. I think you should talk about your feelings with this person. Let them know what you want out of the relationship. That is if you feel uncertain about it. Do you think this person could handle your feelings? If not, why? Why do you feel so uncertain about this relationship? (You don't have to answer that on here, just ask yourself that) I've always had good luck with talks because we learned more about the other and in the meantime not only our love grew but a form of trust and security took place. My man shows me his love. I never saw love until I met him. I know now it's not just hearing those 3 special words. It's actually seeing it in the way he talks to me and the things he does for me. Not everyone can express it so clearly speaking it. I wish you well with this. One thing I would like to comment on is you are not deserving of getting hurt. If this person is hurting you than maybe you should ask yourself what it is about this person that draws you to them. Are they actually hurting you or are they not able to express their feelings which confuses you so you hurt? Does that make sense?
Yes you make a lot of sense and I appreciate your response I think what hurts me is that he has withdrawn from me suddenly and definately the way he treats me and the way he makes me feel I was sure that he loved me before he stopped coming around, but he did stop and that is why this is kinda a big deal, in order to tell him and show him that I love him I would have to go through the trouble of feeling like I'm chasing after him and making a big deal about the love issue and that would pretty much require a lot of opening up and being vulnerable to being hurt by his absence again... I hope I'm making sense... Thanks for the advice
You make a lot of sense. I feel for you that you have to go through this. I know it isn't easy. My husband and I dated for 3 years on/off before we married. It was not an easy 3 years. In fact we make a better couple married than we did when we dated. Commitment was everything. I don't want to tell you to forget about him. Maybe he needs to sort things out for himself. I personally do not find the harm in asking. Especially if you haven't heard from him. He at least owes you a reason. If he hasn't given you a reason you are entitled to one. At least once you talk you'd get a better understanding as to where you stand and what to do with your own feelings. But, you do what you have to do and what you feel is right for you. Funny story... The last time my husband and I broke up (which was like #18 for us) I finally said I was done. It only took 18 times for me to realize I needed to move on. One week later he asked me to marry him. Last week we were married 9 years. Maybe a lil' time is what you both need. In the meantime make sure you take care of you. Sorry if I sound like a mother. I wish I would of taken care of myself during those breakups. I was a wreck for most of them but as time went on I got stronger, you will too.
