I think. we see each other every weekend, and the last couple of times we've done it, it just doesn't feel right. i ain't coming, and he ain't getting hard anymore. i think maybe the attraction is gone. although, we're still very much in love, i dont know if we're still going to be together or not. lately, he just doesn't seem to be interested in me as much, either. especially since he's gonna be going away for half a year, i can't help but think somethings bound to happen while he's away. its sad cause im crazy in love with him... so if our sexlife is done? is our relationship? (when we first met, we rushed into sex, and we've done a lot of it since day 1. then, 3 months later we made it official. i fell in love after 5 months, its almost a year now, and i can't let him go. what im trying to say, is i think that our relationship was based strictly on sex, but the problem is i fell in love from it.)
how can it be that we are in love but dont feel attracted? that cannot happen if ya both are in love as ya say we must want each other
I dont know same situation kind of happened to me. Its hard to say what happens but there could be other factors to it... Have you noticed you're eyes straying, or his? Are there other symptoms or is this the only thing happening?
it is possible, you can love somebody but not like them. i'm still attracted to him, even more so now then i've ever been before. but i dunno if he is with me. what do you mean?
this has happened to me, with my now ex, if your fella failing to get erect, it could be because he is getting it from some were else, or like you suspect he maybe going off you, its always hard to let some one go that you love, but some times for the best
Maybe if you break the problem down into parts. Do you still have a sex drive, would you prefer masturbation to having sex? If its yes maybe its just the situation that you've gotten into thats killing your sexual desire for your fella, and not him. Just because at this moment in time your sexual attraction has receeded doesn't mean you love the man any less. So you say that he doesn't seem interested in you? well if you love the guy and you want him to be attracted to you then there are tried and tested methods of making him attracted to you. Once you see that he wants you, then I'm willing to bet you're sexual attraction will kick back in. When you're in bed with a guy thats totally into you well its what makes sex sex for me. Getting him interested in you doesn't mean having to do anything slutty, it could just be something as having him go undie shopping with you and having him pick out something he likes. Moving into positons that he feels comfortable with, If he's struggling for some reason, try positons where he's behind you and he'll feel less awkward and he can sort himself out without embarressing himself. And don't read too much into it, sex isn't everything just cause you're going through a bad patch doesn't mean everything is falling apart for you.
I dont know how old both of you are, but once you mature a bit, past 28 and real life problems set in, like career, mortgage, aging parents and such. Sex life takes a back seat sometimes. As a guy, I love sex and think about it every day between the hours of 8am and 2pm, mostly when I am at work since it helps pass time. But in the evening, I get so tired that sex is just another job to do. It just isnt worth it. So stress and situations in life play a big role. It doesn't mean he doesn't love you or its over.
traxadron1 - - If I were you I'd rush to have a talk with my doctor as soon as possible! Good luck with getting your sex drive fixed.
I thought it was going to be a he that made this thread and that NEW BABY would be somewhere in the mix. lol - dump the guy baby, he's shankin' some other broad during the week when you're not around. She's probably smokin' hot and you're not so much so? Could be it. As for me though, I'd fuck a telephone pole right about now. NEW BABY x 2 happened to our sex life. Bye bye pussy, hello Huggies.
