Throat fucking / rough oral / gagging

I don't have an opinion since I've only had oral sex twice and once wasn't worth it enough to mention. I just let her do all that she wanted to do and I had a super time. I don't think I would really like to do that to a woman, it just seems abusive to me... But what do I know? I only had oral once and that bitch stomped all over my heart like I was nothin'... ****.

 

Well said masterintx99!!!

 

Exactly Al Kapwn! Everyone is into different things! I was just interested into who else was into the submissive / dominant side of things

 

Thanks Jalopi! I have realised this forum may not be as open as i first thought it was. The thing is we've both found something we BOTH enjoy and i emphasise the word BOTH so where is the harm? I don't understand all the negative remarks. There are more constructive terms to put forward your point.

@ Smokeygirl - saying my gf has self esteem issues - well you couldn't be further from the truth. She is a very powerful women in a high flying professional career. The thing with bdsm is that it is very rarely a person with self esteem issues that takes the submissive role, in my experience it is usely the more dominant person in real life that takes the submissive role during sex. It is a role-play that lets them escape, try something different and they get off on it because they are not use to acting in a submissive way. Do some research before throwing in comments like this that have no credit what so ever.

 

Just had a look online at some casual relationship websites and came across this add (click the link below)......

http://www.gumtree.com/london/50/30874550.html

It reads....
"cum slut, mid 20's, looking for new Master to own her.

You will dominate me, indulge my fantasties, expect me to meet your high standards, you will use me for your pleasure and when I dont perform accordingly you will punish me until I am sorry.

You will make me dress like your little slut, make me call you Master or Sir, make me get down on my knees when you enter the room, push my boundaries, use me as the little slut whore that I am..... I will obey you 99% of the time, on times when I am feeling naughty I will need to be taken in hand, ranging from spanking, to aggressive deep throat fucking where you hold my hair and make me gag, make my eyes water, make me say Thank You Master afterwards and apologise to you for being a naughty girl.

You will not allow me eye contact with you with unless given express permission before hand, and if you catch me doing so you will slap my face. You will cuff and collar me. If I do something which really displeases you (which will not be often or on purpose) you will make me suffer, perhaps you will fuck my arse against my will, or piss on me, whatever you decide you will verbally abuse me the whole time as well, until I cry and beg and even then you wont stop. Only afterwards, when I am truely sorry and Master believes I have learned my lesson, will you hold me and kiss me and comfort me until I feel better.

We will role play, especially Daddy / daughter, Predatory teacher / innocent school girl, Nasty boss threatening sec that she'll lose her job if she doesnt do as she's told, rape/force fantasies etc.

This is what I would like, but of course you being my Master, it will be up to you to make the rules, decide what happens, tell ME what YOU want and expect, and me being the good little cum slut I am, will obey you and adore you and love you. In return for my love, compliance and obedience you will do the above but also be thoughtful, caring and develop me into the experienced sub I long to be. My obedience and commitment to you will be something you treasure as if it were the most special gift you have ever received.

Some boundaries such as not bringing other slaves in the relationship will apply but these will be discussed before we enter into a realtionship.

I would prefer an older man (40+) but all suggestions welcome. This is a geuine advert and I'd appreciate genuine replies only.

If this sounds like your kind of thing then please drop me a line!

Your potential cum slut x"

There are a lot of girls out there who are into this sort of thing just like my girlfriend so just want to know what all the people that have expressed a negative opinion towards me feel/think about this?

 

I think that the advert was placed by a prostitute and in now way indicates what she likes, only what she is willing to do for money.

 

Okay there dirty thirty or dirty stick...I can't remember the handle. I guess there is always an excuse for less than than appropriate behavior. I've read some of other posters say that because you put yourself into the lime light and they applaud your honesty, "let's not dump on him, he's honest, don't be cruel, it's not nice." :willy_nilly:

No pal, you put yourself into the firing line and because you are looking for....

A) Vindication because you know it is a scummy act or........

B) That you really do have to show off how dominate you are. After all because your girlfriend is such a strong willed woman with an open mind not just open legs she needs the crap kicked out of her from time to time and demoralized so she knows what it is like to be a weenie like you with low self esteem.

Ahhhhhh love, isn't it grand?:cheers2:

I still say to her Brother....Dad, scummy here needs a visit.:beatdeadhorse5:

 

Hmmm.

 

I dont's see what some peoples problem is, Me and my girlfreind do a similer thing and she says she realy gets off on it and even asks me to do it, Hey its mebys not as extreme as what the poster is doing but everyone has there kinks. People should accept people like diffrent things

 

Most really dominant people in normal everyday life like to be taken care of in a submissive way in the bedroom, it's nice to be taken care of.


The thing about bondage in anyform that Smokeygirl doesn't seem to know is that in the end the submissive has all of the control, thats what safe words or a safe touch is for.

 

Well said, Sarah.

 

So you're actually the submissive...or switch?

 

I realize that I don't post often and my views may not be welcome. Nonetheless, I am thoroughly disgusted by some of these replies. Initially, I frequented this site because of the open-mindedness that most everyone expounds. Those admonishing dirty-thirty should be ashamed. Yes, everyone is entitled to their opinion, but the personal attacks and generalizations are uncalled for.

As to the topic: I know two females that very much like the exact acts that are described. I think that what most negative responders are reacting to is the “degrading” aspect of what dirty-thirty describes. Use of words such as, “slut” and “whore” seem to raise red flags. For many, many individuals involved in the BDSM niche, the degradation aspect IS the turn on. The credo that those involved with BDSM champion is: “Safe, sane, and consensual.” To me, it appears that dirty-thirty’s acts are indeed safe, sane, and very consensual.

To dirty-thirty, I say: More power to you. You aren’t the only one who likes to “degrade” a consensual significant other.

 

Thank you to the people that have given constructive opinions.

@ smokeygirl - lol at you! You come across as being pretty stupid.

 

Bondage is a very hard thing for people to understand if you don't have a natural interest in it. I think most people who are interested in it have been since they were young.

Which would explain Smokeygirls total loss of intellegence on the subject, it probably scares her.

 

I'm into it. But, I never get to do it. Because my boyfriend says that he feels like he's hurting me and he just can't do it. =[ Oh well. At least he cares. =]

 

true but perhaps she should do some research before running off her mouth

 

Just talk to him about it, communication is the key! If you make sure you have a safe word then he will know that as long as you are not saying your safe word he is not hurting you. Plus you don't have to jump in at the deep end, just take it slowly at first, it took years for my gf and I to do the things I mentioned in the beginning of this thread.

 

I too, am a new member, and this thread caught my attention as well, since I have been into BDSM all my life. As I was reading the initial flaming responses, I felt like this is not a forum that is as opened minded as I thought it might be, but some of the more recent post have eased that feeling somewhat.

Yes, the BDSM lifestyle is not for everyone and it is very misunderstood. What most people do not understand is the very deep level of trust that must be established between the Dominant and the submissive at all times. I would never participate in any BDSM activities without first getting to know each other on a very deep level and establishing mutual trust. Limits must be established and discussed to ensure that everything is consensual and pleasurable. The object in play is to create as much mutual pleasure as possible. Activities can range from mild to extreme, so trust it vital.

Everybody is different. What some see as extreme may be mild to others. What some see as degrading is fun to others. Some people are open minded when it comes to sex, others find it to be dirty. Everyone is entitled to their opinions, and in a free society should be able to express them. But before you bash someone for something they do in a loving, trusting, consensual relationship…. Take a look inside yourself… it there something that you really enjoy that others may find objectionable? Would you a want them to bash you for it? This is a forum to share, express, and ask questions… just keep an open mind when reading.


"Life is not a journey to the grave with the intention of arriving safely in a pretty and well preserved body, but rather to skid in broadside, thoroughly used up, totally worn out, and loudly proclaiming ...
WOW!! What a ride!"

 

Yep