I want my girlfreind to play with me analy and take control

HI,

Im a straight guy that has no problems admitting i love anal stimulation, so much so ex girlfreinds have used butt plugs and strapons on me and its fair to say i loved it.

However with my new girlfreind she seems less than keen, When it comes to me doing anal on her i have rimmed her and inserted a small toy into her ass at the time she seemd she was loving it by the noises she was making but when it come to talking about it afterwards she says she's not sure about it.

I have openly told my girlfreind i like anal stimulation and about a year ago she did insert a butt plug in me after i asked her to do so a few times, I have'nt mentioned the strapon fetish i figure i would get her used to playing with my arse and then mention it... that way it wouldnt be so much as a shock. The problem is however if now i ever mention her playing with my arse with some toys we got she will eaither say she doesnt want to or she will just avoid the question with the dreaded "lets not talk about this right now"

I love my girlfreind to bits and we have been going out for over 2 years now but i consistantly feal let down in the bedroom department, She does have a bedroom fetish as she is into bondage and she loves it when i tie her up in all sorts of positions and use a variety of kinky things on her such as ball gags whips etc and she realy does love it... But again she doesnt do anything like this in return for me.. Im unsure if its a confidence thing or is she just selfish in the bedrrom.... Your thaughts would be great

Thanks

 

I think she may be being a bit selfish. Its like she doesn't care what gets you off. That doesn't seem to fair to me. I think you should tell her you are not happy with how your sex life is and tell her you need her to do things that you like. You are doing it for her so she should be happy to help. I don't see why she is avioding it.

 

She may have a real problem with doing anal on you. Some women think that it makes their partner gay, just like men sometimes have a hard time dealing with the fact that they enjoy it.

You need to ask her why she has a problem with it, my ex had a preggo fetish that I downright refused to indulge in any matter at all, the way that he brought it up really put me off of it and I never wanted to do anything about it. Maybe she feels really pressured by you, it's still (somewhat) taboo.

You need to talk to her about it, but not come across as a prick when your doing it, you need to say something like "I'm glad to play around your fetish, but you ignore mine, if you don't like it I would like to know what I could do to make you feel more comfortable about it, we can start off slowly if you like, and there will be no pressure to move quickly but this is something that I don't really want to live without"

And see how it goes.

 

cannon- - - You seem to be acknowledging only two possibilities, "its a confidence thing or is she just selfish". It also seems that your main focus is in manipulating her to get her to fill your own desires without regard for her feelings.

I, for one, am sick and tired of jerk guys asking, “What should I do to make my girlfriend do ___fill in the blank_____ to fill my desires?"

I'm sure that you've heard of 12-step programs .... well, this Troll has a 2-step program:
Step 1: Stop being such a self centerd asshole.
Step 2: Start viewing your girlfriend as a human being, an equal human being, maybe even as a superior human being.

Try this for a couple of months and I'm pretty sure that both you and your girlfriend will be happier than you are today. Good luck!


Sarahrei - - yet another fantastic sig-pic!



Have fun, play safely, and don’t play with fire!

 

Thanks Troll.

It's true, it's probably not thats shes very selfish, or that it's just happenstance. Your probably in a grey area that you aren't aware of, she may not want to give it to you because of emotional reasons which until you overcome nothing will change.

 

agree when i found out i liked anal i cryed for months thinking i was gay. every nigh a gallon of ice cream and a butt plug in my rear..lol suger rushes are fun.

nah just tell her to do it straight out, go buy a toy or if u have one and demand that she satisfy ur lust for anal sex..lol and tell her u wont do her fetishes unless she does yours

 

Anyways, I talked to my girlfreind about it and the conclusion was she did want to pleasue me and take control in sex but she is to shy and not confident to do so.. She is more than happy for me to take control and do all the naughty things to her but not the other way round.

She has agreed to try and reolve the probelm with me. Any advice would be great i personaly find the confidence thing hard to beleave as i have never had a problem with it and i would have thaught she would be ok as we have been going out for over 2 years, However regardless of that she has agreed to try resolve our little problem so any advice would be great

Thanks