i dont know if this is the right forum to post this is, so just point me in the right direction if its not so heres the story. me and my guy, were both virgins, and we well, pretty much failed at sex. i didnt even know this was possible. basically, he couldnt get it in, i knew it would hurt me, i just didnt know how much or anything, and i couldnt stand it, so i made him stop. also, we got to a point where it hurt so much and i thin i just got kinda bored, becoz i stopped being turned on. i was bleeding a little the next day (we tried at night, fair late, early morning really) and how much pain is normal and whatnot, did anyone else have this issue? any feedback would be nice thanks
Its normal , Believe me....the first time almost ALWAYS sucks to some degree. The pain will probably be a tiny issue the first few times...but , if you want it bad enough , it will be worth it. try a LOT of foreplay , maybe fingers or a toy before penetration. Best of luck to you two !
Yeah. It definetly hurts the first time.. and usually it doesnt last to long.. And yes-you usually bleed a little afterwards. I'm guessing he used a condom..? Was it a lubricated one? If it wasn't maybe you should try using one of those..? But yess. It's painful the first two times--but it will get SOO much more enjoyable-trust me. Just keep tryin girl! Peaceee
yeah, i knew about the bleeding. and i knew it would hurt. yeah i suggested that (after we had failed miserably, haha) he just spend a lot of time getting me really wet, and he started to, but i think he had lost interest a little too, because he stopped after a bit, and we kinda just went to sleep. funnily enough its been an ongoing joke between us that we falied miserably at it, which is good, we keep thinking it should be awkward but its just funny, haha yeah i didnt have too high a expectations for the first time, i knew it would kinda suck, i did expect it to happen tho haha. thanks guys
You've got a great attitude about it .... and IMO that's 98% of the battle right there. Use lots of lube and go slowly ..... and most importantly .... have fun learning together!
It hurt me the first time, too ... but not for long. I was lucky. My first lover was very patient and went very slowly. It seemed like it took him 10 minutes to put it all the way in ... and by then I was like .. hurry up! Then he just went slow and easy with me. He didn't thrust very hard at all, and after a while, it started to feel good. I really liked it Tell your boyfriend to go slow and easy. It shouldn't hurt you very much or for very long. The first few times should be mostly about you ... since you were both virgins, he's probably going to cum pretty quick. That's ok ... he's learning too. Good luck ... and remember that sex is wonderful. You're going to love it
yeah first time sux, but it will get better, and eventually you might even come across a time when you don't even have to have and stimulation for the actual sex to feel good.
Funny about this: I posted a comment/question about using a dildo, and how that might effectively break the hymen and make first penetration more pleasant. The premise of my discussion is that more women today have "mechanical boyfriends" whereas that wasn't the case when I was young. The response in that tread was, no; that most women lost the hymen exercising and riding bikes. So ... which is it? Loving Life (especially), did you ever masturbate with anything before having sex with your boyfriend?
