Early Bloomer vs. Promiscuity

I wanted to see if there were any other girls out there like me. I was an early bloomer (went from 4'4" at 9, when my boobs starting coming in, to 5'10" and a 34D at 13). I looked like I was 17 or 18 and that was the age of the boys I started to attract. I liked the attention and I would sneak out at night or tell my parents I was at a friend's house, that kinda stuff. I liked the making out, but I stopped short of vaginal sex. I finally stopped that life style when I was the victim of an attempted rape. That kinda woke me up. I've had trust issues with guys ever since. All that to ask if there was anyone else out there that because you were an early bloomer you were promiscuous at a young age? Also, the opposites, too. I was really interested in seeing if there was some sort of correlation between early development and early sexual activity.

 

i was an early bloomer. i picked a boyfriend at 14, lost my virginity, had loads and loads of sex with him and broke up with him after 8.5 years. i was ready to go. it's as simple as that. i don't any feelings of guilt or dirtiness about it, either.

 

Obviously that connection should be there, I mean, once you are developed it is quite normal. Curiosity is natural, and curiosity is what is most likely is.
I was a late bloomer and of course I was not sexually active early.

 

I never felt like I was ready for sex yet. Yes, physically I was mature, but not emotionally. But, I guess if I made that choice I was more emotionally mature than I thought. (That just hit me.) That wasn't it either. Because I was making those choices out of a Christian upbringing...no sex before marriage. Sorry, I'm kind of rambling. I'm doing this for a paper, but I've really gotten involved in it. That's why I came here. How old was your boyfriend?

True, but I was there in body, not in mind. When I think about some of the situations I put myself in it was totally out of being naive. I was at parties and alone with guys at 12, 13, and 14 years old. In hindsight, there is nothing I could have done to stop anything they wanted to do with me. I was just lucky that there was someone there to stop it the one time a guy did decide to take advantage of me. Part of me thinks it's almost better to be a late bloomer that way when you do get boobs you might have developed some common sense.

 

i was an early bloomer but did nothing sexual till i was 16. but i think i had reasons for that.

 

I don't see how it caused your promiscuity...

Sounds like you just weren't very mature in that respect/didn't have a mentality against it.

 

Ultimately it didn't cause my promiscuity. I did choose to take older boys up on their advances, but if I didn't develop early would they have made those advances in the first place. The answer is probably no. I fully admit that I was curious about my body and all of the attention I was suddenly getting. All of that is natural. But, the point of this thread is that is to see how developing early or late affected a girl's choice to be promiscuous. I am really interested in hearing from someone who developed late, but was promiscuous at an early age.

Peace Attack, if you don't mind, what were some of your reasons for not becoming active early? Did guys not hit on you when you started to develop? Religious?

Also, I talked to a friend of mine about this and she said that she was an early bloomer at about 10/11, but didn't start making out until about 14. She went on to say that her development had nothing to do with promiscuity because she wanted to make out with boys for along as she could remember.

 

we were both 14. i remember that early exploration with such sweet fondness. it was beautiful.

 

Watch this episode of Southpark. More accurate than not.

"Bebe's Boobs Destroy Society"

http://www.southparkstudios.com/guide/610/



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For me, no I wasn't an early bloomer. I was about average for everything. I did have sex at what some people may see as a young age (15) however I felt ready, and haven't regretted it even for a moment over the past 2 years.

 

I can relate to parts of that South Park. It was like one day my brother's friends all of the sudden noticed that Bryan had a little sister. I spent most of the summer of 2003 tagging along with my big brother and his friends. They were all 15 or 16 and I was 12 going on 13. I started fooling around with one of them secretly and that's how it started for me. We fooled around for a while and then he met another girl and pretty much broke my heart. First loves suck. I ended up moving on to another of my brother's friends.

 

Well I wanted to be promiscuous before I was mature enough, if that counts at all =P
And I agree with your friend, my first sex dream was the pink power ranger when I was around 5 or 6. I didn't fully understand it, but I understood it seemed fun.

 

Kind of a interesting side note to all of this. I was in my mom's studio over the Thanksgiving holidays and her assistant asked me if I would speak with her daughter about being a tall girl. She's 12 years old and is 5'9". My mom's assistant said she remembered when I went through some of the same stuff she's going through now. The daughter is very self-conscious about being so tall and the mom is not really able to relate (she's tiny). We are going to go shopping together next weekend. I used to babysit for her when she was younger so I don't think it will be too uncomfortable. I pretty much know what I'm going to say to her, but I was wondering if anyone else had some good advice for her.

 

good posture!!! don't be afraid to wear heels.

 

I talked to the girl I mentioned before on the phone last night to see what she wanted to do this weekend. We made our plans (going to see Twilight again) and I starting talking to her about things and worked the conversation around to the subject of her growing up. She says she really doesn't mind being tall. The thing that is bothering her the most her older sister who is 14 is not taking her growth spurt too well. The 12 year old is about 5" taller than her older sister and now has bigger boobs. I remember that they were always close when they were littler, but the 12 year old said that she is being an ass about the whole thing. I told her that it might take sometime for her sister to come to grips with being the smaller sister, but I don't know. I've no experience with something like that. I had an older brother, but he and I were about the same height and it never seemed to bother him. Any more advice out there?

 

Well as for the sexual development subject I think that You develop at the pace you push on. From a early age I was interested in sex and once the internet came around I knew what it was it was quite easy to find. I had my first sexual experience with an older girl at 13 she was 16 and a friends older sister. I think when your young and older people are showing you that kind of attention you confuse the feelings and get a bit nervous! I know I certainly was when she started kissing me then taking my pants off!
In that kind of situation it is hard to say no... So really development seems to rely on a mixture of personal beliefs, situations, and level of freedom. As we both know if you or I did not have high levels of freedom we would not have been as exposed

 

Something similar happened to me again with friends of my older brother suddenly showing an interest in me. I was lucky for a number of reasons,

firstly I had participated in proper sex ed when I was 10 so I knew what was happening and I knew intellectually that boys showing an interest in me was perfectly natural. Not long after outraged parents got the program curtailed cause they felt it was corrupting their darling children.

Secondly My brothers friends even though being hormone crazed weren't assholes. For a girl whose body is going through crazy things way before most of her friends and whose getting a little pissed off, to have a handsome boy turn to her and tell her she's pretty, well it can really change the way you look at things.

Anyway I didn't have sex untill I was 16 but I did do various other stuff. Again that there were options to penetrative sex, was something that my sex ed taught, (and the reason it was ended afterwards).

Another reason I was lucky was my parents I think they took a lot of mystique out of sex, my mother told me my room was my own and that I could have a key and have boys in there, but if I did something I was unsure about I'd only regret it later. So I didn't feel like losing my virginity would give me some great insight into the world like a lot of my friends did.

 

i had two older brothers and nearly all my neighbors were the popular boys in school. both of those situations gave me a healthy wariness of the male sex. not only did i see how my brothers treated their girlfriends, but i saw the difference between how the popular boys treated me when the popular girls were around as opposed to when they weren't. tsk tsk.

i searched long and hard for a mate. i found one. it was ideal.

 

Tallgirl, it's really cool of you to help this girl out. I have no advice - boy, is this out of my skill range - but wanted you to know that you're cool.

 

I was somewhat of a late bloomer, not getting my period or boobs until I was 14 but that was the age I had my first boyfriends and did the firrst sexual things, I lost my virginity at age 15 to someone who I was with for 2 years and who I in a way still miss so I definatly do not regret anything, out of my friends I was the latest to become a woman but the first to do the things woman do that children don't
I feel I was mentally ready earlier then I was phisically, I was really annoyed I got breasts so late, thought they'd never come. I have a 30D now though