Being nice without scaring her off?

Just recently I met this girl. Over the last couple weeks, we've been hanging out. At first I didn't think we were very compatible, but I'm learning that we have more and more in common. I know she likes me as well.
Here's the hard part... her life has been kind of rough the last couple months. Her father passed away and she's had a big falling out with one of her best friends. I also get the feeling that most of the guys she's been with have been complete @$$holes (according to things I've heard her friends say).
I really want to be the sweet nice guy to come along in her life, however, I'm afraid it will intimidate her and scare her away.
An example... the other day she said her throat was sore. She has a movie shoot coming up (she's an actress) and can't afford to be sick. She mentioned that one of the best remedies is raw ginger and garlic. Later that day, I went out and picked up a small piece of ginger root and a garlic clove. I left it on her door with the note "Hope this helps you feel better." After doing this, I got a little worried that she might be freaked out by a guy who likes her, after all she's been through recently.
How do I show her that I'm nice and caring without going overboard and frightening her? I've had the experience before that girls don't really like nice guys.

 

Hey man,

what you did was a really sweet gesture and I can't imagine any girl would be freaked out by that?

You seem to be fairly clued up and I think you're worrying needlessly, take it nice and slow. You've made it clear you are aware of her issues, so use your instincts. Have faith in your ability to communicate and empathise, if you feel she needs space, give space, if you think she needs warmth and security act on that.

Although it's clichéd, be yourself!

(and since when don't girls like nice guys!?)

 

If she's always been with assholes, then that is what she's attracted to, however assholes are self-destructive. Really what she is attracted to is a guy who is in control and instils a sense of discipline and order in her life. You should be agressive and assertive but not abusive. If you let her dictate the relationship and are apologetic she will find you weak and undesirable. Take control and be her leader and you will prosper together.

 

I think that you are really sweet to her. Just continue what you are doing don't worry if she will freaked out, she will probably like what you are doing. Just bigloui said have faith in your ability to communicate and empathize.

 

i hate it when girls take a kind action as "creepy" and get scared off...so frustrating

 

Well, I called and left her a message about 24 hours ago and she hasn't returned it yet. :| Yeah, I know, she could be busy.

From what I've been reading, it seems that a lot of girls don't really like nice guys because... they see kindness as "wussy." Other reasons could be that they think a guy is trying to hard, or getting too attached.
Personally, I think this is pretty stupid. I can stand up for myself. I don't think I'm trying too hard, though I do like her quite a bit, but I'm generally pretty damn nice to everyone. As for getting too attached... I've had my heart broken more than once. I think I've learned my lesson about obsessing.
It's just starting to get frustrating that when I find someone I'm interested in, they seem to almost always run off...

 

Yup, she's blowing me off...

 

Don't make that assupmtion too soon!!

Any hey, we can't win them all!

 

It's funny... I guess I did make that assumption too soon.

Right after I posted that, she left me a message... heh