It makes me feel better when I let this stuff out... I'm just stressed and depressed with life in general, Im 20 and ive never had a girlfriend or gotten laid, this depresses me greatly... University work is stressing me out and friends or other people in general can really annoy me at times... I still live in the same town I grew up in and still living at home, lots of my other friends seem to be moving on and I dont know what the hell im gonna do in the future. I always seem to feel really down the day after a night out, I dont know why, maybe its because people irritated me or maybe its because I didnt score with a girl or something... Its usually the same thing every week, maybe I should stop going out for a while but when it comes to the weekend again I find myself wanting to get out of the house. I'm trying to improve my confidence with women, working on eye contact and stuff but I always seem to feel less confident in classes as they are usually early in the day and I find my face to be more pale and looking different and less attractive to how I usually would on a night out(still confused by this). Ofcourse I dont act like this in front of women as I know that they dont find it attractive so I try my best to act as confident as I can... Anyway any advice or anything would help, it really helps guys, sorry if I sound like im seeking self-pity, im not trying to, I just find that it helps me when I let it out...
Sorry buddy but (with all due respect to miss cleo) this is your future https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=e4qtvMfhsCI Hotwater
Hotwater, leave the guy alone. Mark, if it makes you feel any better (er, it might make you feel worse..) I've never been laid either. Being a chick, of course, my status is mostly voluntary, except that I've never found a guy that cares about anything other than fucking me. I don't usually go out either, and when I do I get depressed too, because the people who go to clubs and bars are for the most part, scummy assholes. Are you looking to just have sex because you're horny and don't want to be a virgin anymore? Or do you actually want someone to care about? There's plenty of sex-crazed douche bags out there, you should strive to be something different. Also, when it comes to your looks, remember: girls aren't really as visual as guys are. We care about looks, but not to the extent that guys do (for the most part anyway). Nearly every guy that I've become attracted to didn't start off as exceptionally attractive in my eyes. I always started out as friends with them, and then as I got to know them, they became physically attractive to me. Maybe try starting some platonic friendships with girls and see what develops. Not every girl likes to be "hit on" in an overt way.
http://www.miguelruiz.com/ dude i realy feel your pain! totaly been there... i used to be very socially anxious, i guess since ive been kinda bullied/had bad friends who didnt respect me at school. And even though i look good(so im told atleast) i had extremely bad self esteem, and thus had a hard time getting girls. this led me into depression and caring waaaaaaay to much about what others thought of me. I was the kind of guy that got realy hurt if i found out somebody didnt like me. anyways i suggest you read that book the four agreements, it has totally changed my life in every single way. I now have no fear of others opinions and therefore im free to be myself(witch i used to think wasnt good enough, so i felt i had to "act" to get girls, or friends for that matter). its not a book about dating or anything, but about finding hapiness, conquering your fears and being yourself.
don't try to be some thing ur not, in order to impress, women have really good bullsh:t detectors, be your self, and just ask a few women out, wots the worst that can happen, they can say no, then you just ask some one else, and keep asking, because there is always a yes waiting some were.
Everything has a beginning. You just need to become more confident and more optimistic. But don't forget to be nice to girls as well.
