I don't know where to turn. My ex wants to keep me close for some reason and still wants sex, however, he doesn't want to be with me anymore. I get over him then he starts talking to me again. I know...stop talking to him...yeah it's not that easy because he still means so much to me. We just had sex last week and last night he met some girl and went out with her tonight...it's awful. I feel so empty. The other random one-night stands haven't helped much either...I don't know what to do anymore...
You surely haven't stated your problem correctly. He wants to be with you, to fuck you or get a BJ, or eat you out, depending on his tastes. He just doesn't want to be tied to you in any permanent way. What you can do is kick his ass out for good and find someone else. What the hell kind of hippie are you anyway? Hippies are independent thinkers not people who whine over someone who doesn't deserve to be associated with them. There are a lot of good men and women you can hook up with. Go for it. Good Luck.
As to wot eric von above said, yes hippies are independent thinkers, but that does not mean we don't have feelings just like every one else, your ex knows that you still have strong feelings for him, and he is using, this fact , to get you to have sex with him, he is just using you hun, you should cut him off, don't answer his calls . Its always hard to walk away from some one we love, but some times its for the best, i am shore you will find some one who loves you as much as you love them, gl hun.
Thanks so much! I am a very independent person and a very independent thinker-this is one of the reasons we broke up unfortunately...he needs someone to depend on him a little more than I could. Last night, I came to a realization...we weren't happy and we would never be. Yeah the sex is great-but that's because I trained him to what I like. The only reason I think I was upset in the first place is because I didn't like having sex with anyone else because they were all just random, emotionless hook-ups. I think now, I'm going to cool it and just live for me. That's what I think I need right now.
it sounds to me like he is using you for free sex. some men are that shallow that they will use you just for sex if they can. he knows you stil have feeling for him & wont say no. he dosent want the attatchment, the commitment of being in a relationship but still wants the sex. thats pritty selfish but your letting him be. tell him it has to stop, block his number from your phone, erase his number & dont answer the door to him. he will soon get the message. i know its hard but if you want to move on it has to be a clean break. while ever he is still around & in your life you will never be able to move on from him. having one night stands wont help either, they will just make you feel even more used & worthless. take some time out for yourself, time to get over him & move on. hang out with your girl friends & just have a good time being you.
You all have been so helpful! And it's not a matter of him not wanting a relationship-we just had sex last week and the night after he met this girl that he really likes. I dunno...I just wish we'd be DONE DONE. He feels the need to keep talking to me. He says it's because "I was the biggest part of his life for 3 years, of course he still wants to talk to me." I just want out of the entire thing. And the sex won't be happening anymore because he has just ruined me so much! And I'm not usually like this! It's never taken me long to get over people because I usually just throw the walls up and move on. I don't know why it's taking so long with him...I hate it!! 8 months of heartbreak is too long for me!
I believe that don't really love you, he's just using you. He wants sex he really was to satisfy himself. You should let him go don't talk to him.
