dates before sex

I've never have a rule about it. There has been people that I dated for months and never slept with them and I liked them a lot, but I can tell when someone just wants to sleep with me, so I dont
And I've also had a couple of one night stands. With people who I just had a physical connection with. In retrospect, most of that, was just a meaningless waste of energy, but a fun one.

 

I waited til the 2nd date with my hubby.

I never was one to wait much. I'm glad I was promiscuous back when it was fun. These days...blah

 

not true, i sometimes get them to make me breakfast or clean my house
illegal immigrants will do anything for a few extra bucks
they're so handy

 

I've never been on 3 dates with a lady without.

But I've had sex with women whom I didn't date per se, but knew for a while before having sex.

For me, usually the third date is sex itself. Unless it's a same-nighter--- one of which developed into a full-blown relationship for me.

There is no way in hell I'm going on a fourth date without sex---. It's not like I only have sex with people I intend to get married to.

 

Not before 4th date.

 

Yeah. Try to get a woman to clean my house. Good luck with that.

 

I also want to say that, contrary to what some people may think- sex to me is not an end.

It is also a means to get to know someone affectionately. So- if it takes too long, it feels to me like we're stalling and not getting to know each other better.

I know who I can have sex within 2 seconds of meeting her. The dates are just a comfort-building stage.

 

:biggrin: That warms my heart.




Uh.. Usually 1-3 dates for me. Occasionally longer. All depending on the guy.

 

If there were a sliver of mine heart to give thee, it would be yours.

Maybe our dogs can date instead.

 

Sadly Angus has been snipped. But I did give him prosthetic testicles. Big ones. So the ladies really like him.

 

You're supposed to date before sex?

 

Hahaha. Are they soft and fuzzy?

Coby's fixed too, but they can still have play dates. Is Angus a swimmer?

 

Angus, for being half Labrador, and being paired with a lifelong sailor, is afraid of water above his ankles.

 

Dating is for normal people.

 

Well for me , *dating* as opposed to being friends with someone is about fun , messing round and well ultimately sex.

OK someone mightn't want full sex early on but then that'd put em in the "friends " camp.
I think there's nothing sadder than clueless guys being "played along" by women.Fortunately I don't have that problem.

If there ain't the chemistry felt by me , then I won't date em - I'd just meet em as a friend ,s'times with friends etc.

Unmarried life is about meeting lots of people , and having sex.
I dont wanna marry Mother Teresa ( well she's dead for a start off )

PS sometimes , I'll be friends with someone , *then* have a "date" with her

 

"Pussbelched a gob of period onto his stomach"?? Wow, haven't heard that one before!
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The funny thing is that, having been at this for a bazillion years (and million women) is the man-woman-sex negotiation changes over time. The premise of this question is (a) men want sex all the time, and (b) women need only decide when/if to "give it up." A supply-and-demand thing, so to speak.

I mean, that's the way it was when I was in my teens and twenties, but now that I have a AARP card and am well past my child-rearing years, it seems like all the women are ready to do it when you meet them at the door, and are actually pissed if you don't make a move on the first date. It's all so bizarro.

I guess I've mellowed; I still love sex, but more than that I enjoy good company. I don't feel needy about having a woman around to cook for me and make me feel manly. It comes with age, I suppose. (Men, am I the only one who experiences this?)

In response to the question at hand, it's silly and immature to have an agenda when it comes to these things. Relationships are communication, and communication is a two-way negotiation. You have to follow your instincts, pay attention to what people say, and act accordingly. I've met women with whom my/our first instinct was "let's fuck -- now!" Sometimes, circumstances dictate a raw, physical relationship, that's all. Other times the attraction grows over time. More often than not, the really good relationships involve an element of seduction, where you savor a longer period of mystery and discovery.

As a general rule within my own experience, the longer I've waited, the longer the relationship has lasted. Implicit in that statement is if I'm looking for something lasting with her, I'll take it slower.

 

Ah, I'm a little less confused.

 

I'm guilty of fucking on the first date unfortunately... However, if I ever date again, I plan to try and do things right

 

I don't have a rule. I have dated guys I never fucked and fucked guys I never dated

 

but your french, your supposed to be confusing and keep us guessing, its part of the appeal.