Sexual Harassment from Dorm Mate? Not? Please help.

Post deleted to protect the innocent. Figured it isn't smart to have shit like this posted in case something goes down.

 

just sounds like you got a bad roomie situation. ask for a transfer. it's really not that crazy uncommon.

 

Thank God she's leaving in two weeks.

 

In this situation, I would counter the rudeness with pleasant sayings.
Try not to let her bring you down to her level.
It takes a certain strength of mind to be above it all.

Before going back to the room, take a few minutes to prepare some
thoughtful sayings to her in anticipation of her rudeness.

Try say something like 'God Bless you' in response to her rudeness.
Throughout life you will encounter difficult people like this - and worse.

I know its not easy to actually do this sort of thing, but the sooner you
get the hang of it, the easier it gets.

Perhaps pick a flower, in advance, and give it to her when she starts her nonsense.
It will either make her feel guilty, thoughtful, or even go ballistic.

Either way, you win, she loses. Try and laugh at her silliness.
She is happy when you are angry, as she is probably jealous of you.
If you get angry, then she gets what she wants : you to be as miserable as her.

 

Sexual Harassment?? Are you kidding? Yes, you have a crazy roommate and I understand that can be really difficult. But seriously, if you consider what she did sexual harassment to you I think you need some help. You heard her making out with a guy... I don't see how that could elicit bad memories to reoccur.

 

I agree with jrnyman. You got a borderline psychotic roommate, and the cure is to get away from her - far, far away.

Whatever emotional issues you may have could certainly be subconsciously eliciting these experiences - but there's not a helluva lot of point in worrying about that. The experiences will teach you - and are designed for the purpose of teaching you what you need to learn in this life - so just put your head down, plow ahead, and do what needs doing. What needs doing right now is: Stand up for your rights, and get the hell out of there.

 

Follow her off campus and "Whupp some ass". I'm all for peacful resolutions but sometimes it just won't work. IMO she's driving your nuts with her bs so if you can't think of a way to diffuse the situation just beat the shit out of her.

 

Just as an update...

My RA reported the incident to the school and yes, they said it was sexual harassment. That, and her calling me a dyke was sexual discrimination, since I'm bisexual. She can drive five hours away... and she'll still have to come back to face judicial charges if she pleads not guilty. She wasn't just making out, by the way, and the fact that she did it with harmful intent is what made it sexual harassment. I moved out, and now I'm in counseling.

I'm not going to lie, I really didn't expect so much um, hostility from people when I posted this. "Failing" by thinking she'll stumble across this and be sorry? Geez. Even if she knew this site and found this post, she's too illiterate to read all of that.

 

So is she faces charges from the actual police department or just your school? I am assuming you have sex on a semi-regular basis. I am now guessing that her sex sounds sound a little similar to yours. True you are in a bad situation that is not your fault, but I can't help feeling that this went to far if the actual police will be involved including a criminal record.

It is good that she now knows in the real world she will have to change they way she interacts with the world and grow up and face people. And I happy that the conflict is settled.

In your consoling working out the trauma caused by her having sex?

 

I'm glad it worked out for you.

BTW: Ignore xenadu. He's just a channer.

 

Noooo.

Getting help for various things, including being molested.

I only had sex in the room once and I followed through with the honor system. (She was actually spending a night over and I did what I was supposed to do - run it through with her in advance. Everything was cool because she was going camping that night.) Since I became pissed/self-conscious about my extremely nosy floormates, I arranged for sex at the other party's dorm. No one was ever with us in the room when we did it.

And yes... I reported that in my incident report. After the board received I got word everything was still in my favor.

 

Oh how I miss the days of modesty...