HELP: cant give my girlfriend an orgasm

me and my g/f have sex nearly every night. I cant give her an orgasm to save my life. I've tried everything i can think of to accomplish this feat and nothing. i've tried head then sex and i still cant do it. she says she's never had a real orgasm before so i'd love to be the man give her one.

I'd appreciate any help/tips from anyone.

 

Try an Eroscillator. They are expensive but get the job done.

Edit- oh yeah, you don't really need to move it much, just find the man in the canoe and hold it there. That plus a triple treat should work.

 

What do you do to show her that you really love her ?

How long do you spend kissing her ?

How long do you spend caressing her all over ?

You have to spend a lot of time on foreplay.

Real orgasm - 7+ hours for me and my partner.

It only ever happened as instensely as it did on one occasion.

You need to learn the art of foreplay affectively, that means a lot of caressing ever so gently, like the wings of a butterfly your hands must be soft and smooth like that of a child.


The whole body is an erogenous zone.

Spend time on running your fingers through her hair making sure you don't tear it out of her head, if this is done correctly it can be a real turn on, then start caressing her all over very gently let your hands glide over her body avoid her breasts and vulva initially.

Slowly caress all over her back, neck, arms, backs of both legs and continue doing that for as long as you can.

Then do the same to the front of her avoiding her breasts initially and vulva ....

Keep this subtle tease going for as long as you can, the idea is to relax her as much as you can.

Finally after your arms are aching ( thats right it aint easy ) do it all again but this time start to focus in on her breasts and vulvu.

1.Never enter a women before she is dripping wet.
2. The longer you spend on caressing and kissing the better, it builds up the sexual tension, its this sexual tension that must be built up to increase the strenghth of the orgasm, so your foreplay has to be affective, over a long period of time.

Don't grind her vulva or clitoris, its a very sensitive organ that must be handled very gentley with the utmost care.

If you gring the vulva or clitoris it will get sore and she'll push your hand away or will do something to get you off - which means she won't get off.

Having said all this you have to understand that women have psychological needs that must be met.

If shes been sexually traumatised you'll have trouble or you may not be able to get her to orgasm at all ?

if a women feels inhibited she won't orgasm.

Turn the lights off, women sometimes feel inhibited by what you think of there bodies.

Make love after they ovulate their at their horniest at end of the month (full moon).

So the idea is to get them highly aroused and then when they are close to orgasm, you enter her, and orgasm together.

Women cause your orgasm, not the other way around.

Understand that real orgasm, I believe is quite rare.

I have only ever experienced it three times in my life, of those orgasms, only one was really incredible experience for me.

The other mild orgasms were good, still the really intense orgasm was a life changing avent.

See what you can do.

GB.

 

Dude I'm no expert on the womens, but I do know that the setting is where it's at. GentleBen's reply is good and notice that it's more about setting the mood than rubbing some bit of meat.

 

Yep, the two above posters are right. It's entirely about setting the mood rather than just rubbing me.

 

I think thats very true.

I guy shouldn't rub a women's body or vulva, in some cases its not even rubbing its grinding which makes it worse, he should caress her, there is a subtle difference.

Your hands I think need to be as soft as a childs and as gentle as the wings of a butterfly.

 

WELL, sounds like you might need to switch up partners in your square dance

 

or sex in public that works too

 

YES! Men should pay more attention to this. Rough hands are a instant turn off, they hurt and they make you seem like you don't care enough to take care of yourself.

 

Think finger tips and tongue .... lightly and slowly ..... when she says, "harder" or "faster" that'll be your clue to go harder or faster.

 

That's right rough hands bad, soft gentle hands good.

I guess its hard if your job requires you to work hard and that causes your hands to be hard, dry, rough and cracked.

Maybe you could have a bath and let your hands soak and maybe use a moisturiser ?

(He he can't believe I'm saying this ) I can just hear you guys starting to be concerned about being a "queer eye" or japanese metro.